Learning to act

Despite being a SPD I must admit I was good at acting in school plays. I enjoyed making fun of the ways "normal people" behaved. I also developed a flair for languages and can learn very quickly on my own, never in groups.

Actually I think the two would go very well together. Being a schizoid, you probably excelled at acting because it is something that you're forced to do on a regular basis in order to sucesfully interact with the rest of society.

I have been told that people can not tell the difference when I say something that is entirely unserious.

Janie wrote:Spend time with her as you would a friend

Ok. I think I'll give it a try, but if something stupid happens, that's the end of it.

What buggers me is that this is the same approach I employed with that American girl and I ended up falling in for her. Darn it. How disappointing for both of us. I suppose I was bound to fall in for the first female friend I went out with.

I hate to say this, but your views on women and sex are rather odd. Yes, most couples have sex. No one thinks they're
'dirty'. Once again you sound like a very young child who still doesn't understand sex. Like a little child, it sounds awful to you.

You won't find a girl to marry you with an attitude like yours.

Janie wrote:I hate to say this, but your views on women and sex are rather odd. Yes, most couples have sex. No one thinks they're
'dirty'. Once again you sound like a very young child who still doesn't understand sex. Like a little child, it sounds awful to you.

Sex outside marriage is wrong. Sex is for married people only. It's the reward of commitment. Sex for its own sake is pure biology and we're humans, not animals.

You won't find a girl to marry you with an attitude like yours.

I will, but, as Frank Sinatra said, I'll do it my way, ie, through courtship, because:

a) It doesn't involve sex or any sort of physical involvement (kissing, hugging, holding hands, etc)
b) It is overseen by knowledgeable adults
c) It allows for more in-depth knowledge of the couple's individual characters by taking part in "real life situations", eg, spending time with both families, cleaning the house, etc

Go read "I kissed dating goodbye" and "Boy meets Girl" by Joshua Harris. I had these odd ideas long before reading these books and thought they were part of my SPDness, but didn't know some Christians practiced them until that girl told me last year. Darn it, I wish I had known earlier.

jradetzky wrote:Sex outside marriage is wrong. Sex is for married people only. It's the reward of commitment. Sex for its own sake is pure biology and we're humans, not animals.

No, it isn't. I don't even like sex, but you hate sex because you grew up in a catholic environment. You may dislike its mechanics, but normal humans are programmed to like sex, and it's proven to be the most rewarding act chemically wise. There is nothing intrinsecally wrong with sex. You may say that it shouldn't happen when having sex is the objective and I would agree, but marrying doesn't mean you are in love, you connect with your spouse or that you are even commited to that person beyond the contract. Marriage is a man-made institution that has severe flaws (for one, that often both members stop trying to please each other after God has heard the "Yes, I do") and a lot of times you'll find more commitment in unmarried couples.

Humans are the only ones that have sex for sex's sake. Animals only care about reproduction when they stick their meat lances into unsuspecting females.

Joel Overbeck wrote:No, it isn't. I don't even like sex, but you hate sex because you grew up in a catholic environment. You may dislike its mechanics, but normal humans are programmed to like sex, and it's proven to be the most rewarding act chemically wise. There is nothing intrinsecally wrong with sex. You may say that it shouldn't happen when having sex is the objective and I would agree, but marrying doesn't mean you are in love, you connect with your spouse or that you are even commited to that person beyond the contract. Marriage is a man-made institution that has severe flaws (for one, that often both members stop trying to please each other after God has heard the "Yes, I do") and a lot of times you'll find more commitment in unmarried couples.

Although I grew up in a Catholic country, I had the fortune of having non-believing parents who couldn't care less about all the Church's hypocrisy, so that I'm officially an atheist. In fact, I hate the Catholic church because people who go there every Sunday are the ones who have the most sex, get drunk, and misbehave (and yes, most married Catholic couples suck).

I arrived at my ideas about sex and marriage through my own observation and analysis--meeting that girl was a quantum leap in the process I must admit. Coincidently, they seem to be the same ideas of conservative Christians. However, I think I'm the only atheist to have these views.

I started to understand a bit about love and commitment when my mom had a bad nervous crisis during a bus trip and my dad held her in his arms for over 5 hours to calm her down. Wow, that's pretty cool, I thought. BTW, they got married 31 years ago after eloping when my mom's dad opposed to the courtship. Funny thing, innit?