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Re: How Can a Schizoid Be Successful in Life?

Postby Heymitch » Fri Apr 04, 2014 5:47 pm

Thanks for the responses. I will address a couple of topics here...

On Success and Working from Home
I don't see myself as being a very ambitious person.
I have chatted with or read comments from a lot of people who are trying to work from home, usually through blogging, selling MLM stuff, and/or self publishing books.
Virtually all of these people are struggling. So for most people trying to work from home, "success" simply means being able to work from home while paying the bills.
I like the fact that income is probably less limited when working from home than it would be if I were working for some employer. If I had more money, I would spend it on things like self development, health (like food and exercise equipment), and hiring virtual assistants to do dull, repetitive tasks. I wouldn't mind moving to a detached house and having my own driveway, and maybe even a nice view. It would also be great to be able to give money to worthy charities.
However, home businesses often fail even after if they do become successful for a while. To scale up a home business, I could work with overseas assistants. However, for anyone to really become rich, they have to work with a ton of people online, and even in person. Therefore, I would be surprised if there are many rich, schizoid entrepreneurs.
It used to be, and still sometimes may be the case, that a writer could be reclusive. However, nowadays it seems like they need to market themselves heavily and build up a lot of relationships along the way.
My home-based business attempt has failed, but I relied entirely on writing. The written word isn't as important as it once was, like over a century ago. I think most people don't feel like they know you unless you make your own videos and post them on YouTube; do Google Hangouts (videoconferencing); hold meetups on Twitter, etc.
Even if I had to become somewhat uncomfortable with the level of working with others, I would like at the end of my life to be able to say that I gave my best, and made the world a better place in some ways. If I am ambitious, that is where I am ambitious. That said, I am tired of this online stuff and tired of not making any money. So I would rather settle for an ordinary job at this time.

On Wearing a Mask
In a sense, doesn't this describes every schizoid's social life when meeting people face to face? I think schizoids can easily look like we're fake or lying because that doesn't come naturally. We had to learn how to interact with people, which isn't something anyone really can learn in a conscious manner.
Even if I am saying the right things, I am not displaying much affection or emotions, even if I think I am.
Sometimes, I feel like I have impressed an interviewer or a girl on a date, but then it turned out they were wearing the mask, making me think I was doing okay.
The only time I've ever truly impressed someone was when I was super psyched up. However, I don't know of any way to intentionally reach that mental state.
Part of the problem is that down inside, I don't really want to reach a state of being able to impress someone in a job interview by selling myself like a salesman. It's hard for me to play that game. I also don't date for the same reason.
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Re: How Can a Schizoid Be Successful in Life?

Postby Kabuhi » Fri Apr 04, 2014 6:05 pm

Heymitch wrote:I think success is often very much about salesmanship. Therefore, I am wondering if and how other schizoids have broken through to become successful in this area. Thank you.

My breakthrough came from general change in my attitudes toward myself and others over a period of time. The best I can describe my attitude now is that I have a right to command the territory around me, that people are going to respect me within my territory or there's going to be a problem, and that I don't have to defer to anybody within my territory even at risk to myself. Every since I adopted that attitude, I haven't had the success that natural extroverts would have simply because I don't pursue relationships in the same way, but oddly my interactions with others have become less awkward and more fluid.

You would think that attitude is perhaps somewhat arrogant and that it might annoy people somewhat, but remember that schizoids are not naturally annoying people and I think, especially as a man, somehow my projection of confidence, strength, or openness puts people at greater ease or makes them feel more comfortable than if I had a more timid, supplicating attitude. When people see a strong, confident man, for one reason or another I think it makes them feel better and more at ease internally. If you as a man appear weak or insecure, it's going to spread to other people making them feel more weak or insecure. My opinion is that none of this is good or bad, it's just the way things are and you can either accept that you're going to be looked to for a sense of leadership and security and incorporate them into your worldviews or you can ignore these things and deal with it that way. It really doesn't matter to me, I'm just suggesting that you consider that people might see you as a strong human being and depend on you subconsciously for guidance whether you want them to or not simply because you look capable.
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Re: How Can a Schizoid Be Successful in Life?

Postby imschizoid » Sun Jun 17, 2018 6:20 pm

Get a job where you bearly see anyone, and work till you drop.

TBH I'm trying to get a job as a freelance graphic designer. I have the skills, and I'm learning it in Uni.
I think this would be the best job for me: good money, and no human contact, it's all online!!
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