Origins

solitaire wrote:One APD thing I do have though is a dislike of telephones, I've always been a master at ignoring them. I spent years without one and it was great.

I can relate to that. I often have anxiety when I need to call someone at work. Now that seems irrational to me, since you never even see the person. I also sometimes feel dread when I have to drive somewhere unfamiliar. To me driving is extremely social. The vehicle takes on the driver's personality. So when I encounter aggressive personalities on the road, it isn't good. However, if I know the area pretty well then I can deal with it better because I don't have to divert some of my attention to the environment.

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quiet-loner wrote:The eye contact question needs some explanation. I use aggressive body language to keep people away from me. This often entails staring directly into peoples eyes for longer than they find comfortable.

Do you stare at their eyes so they will stop talking to you? Or do you do this when they aren't talking to you? Is it natural or are you doing it consciously?

I can't recall when I started using excessive eye contact to make people feel uncomfortable around me. I remember that on school parents evenings my teachers would often comment/complain about it, so I must have found it effective at a very early age and it became a habit.

If I'm talking to someone I actually want to talk to, which is a very rare occurence, I have to remember to blink occasionally and use the appropriate facial gestures otherwise I appear very detached and emotionally cold. I rarely need to use eye contact to stop people talking to me as people don't usually talk to me unless I want them to. If forced into conversation with someone I typically use a combination of overly intellectualising the conversation and sarcasm to make them feel stupid. This seems to deter them from talking to me again.

quiet-loner wrote:I typically use a combination of overly intellectualising the conversation and sarcasm to make them feel stupid. This seems to deter them from talking to me again.

Hrm, there are these two women at work that like to push everyone's buttons. I have heard them talking about how they're "going get me to talk." They occasionally approach me making "small talk" with a very sarcastic tone. I am highly suspicious of their motives. Anyway, I generally try to shrug them off. I only really talk to them if it is related to work and is necessary. Maybe I will try giving them an intense stare the next time. I've also thought about making a series of subtle but strange faces but with a serious, unblinking stare. I hope this would give them the idea "WTF I'm going to leave him alone."

I hope this would give them the idea "WTF I'm going to leave him alone.

Just ignore them; think of them as grains of sand on the beach of your life.

Age: (29)
Gender: (F)
Sexual Orientation: Hetero, though my past (before I started hating the general population) was littered with many orientations.
Mother's Personality: Introverted, but cerainly not unemotional
Father's Personality: Introverted and flat, diagnosed as cyclothemic, so the flat could be the drugs
Brothers: 1, Older, undiagnosed/self diagnosed Asbergers, social phobias, but always has 4 other bachelors hanging out in his house, no intrest in sex
Sisters: none
Religion Growing Up: None
Current Spiritual Following: United Church of Me
Do you experience social anxiety: in bouts
Do you have trouble with eye contact, expressions, etc: only that I have to remember to do it
Do you have bouts of depression: (no)
How close are you to your family [1 to 5 scale, 5 is "very close"]: 5, immediate family, and close as in I would do anything they would ask of me. However, you can hear the crickets at the family reunions becuase none of us has any concept of small talk.

My SPD is mild and sporadic. It usually involves me spending too much time around people and deciding to lock myself in my office or my bedroom for days at a time. I'm on an antianxiety medication for panic attacks, so I don't get the social anxiety stuff like i used to. Now, I'm mostly just unemotional and unexpressive. I get told I am difficult to read.

age:43
gender: female
sexual orientation:lesbian
mothers presonality: cross between joseph stalin and hyenna
(obsessive compulsive and borderline)
fathers personality:what personality????? he was probably schizoid
brothers: oldest brother ok after lots of therapy, 2nd oldest brother active alcoholic,
sisters: cold as ice controll freak
religion growing up: roman catholic
current spiritual following : zen buddhism
do you experience social anxiety: yes often
do you have trouble with eye contact, expressions,etc: i dont make eye contact much epseccially if i dont know the person well and am not expressive,mostly flatline.
do you have bouts of depression: yes
how close are you to your family: 1, i avoid them like the plague

Hi Jimon. I see you were fond of your mother...

Age: (22)
Gender: (M)
Sexual Orientation: (Hetero)
Mother's Personality: (Dedicated to her children and family,easygoing,loveable)
Father's Personality: (Agressive,shows his love rarely,criticisal,pessimist)
Brothers: (1, Younger, Silent,easygoing,never pisses of)
Sisters: (none)
Religion Growing Up: (Islam)
Current Spiritual Following: (Agnosticism or weak atheism, currently researching)
Do you experience social anxiety: (Y)
Do you have trouble with eye contact, expressions, etc: (Y)
Do you have bouts of depression: (Y)
How close are you to your family [1 to 5 scale, 5 is "very close"]: (5)



I see that no one follows his growing up religion.

Hi mindtrick.

I see that no one follows his growing up religion.

I think that's part of the process of severing family connections. By the way, I'm a strong atheist, so if you have questions, I'd be happy to talk about it.

verty wrote:Hi mindtrick.

I see that no one follows his growing up religion.

I think that's part of the process of severing family connections. By the way, I'm a strong atheist, so if you have questions, I'd be happy to talk about it.

I'd appreciate that. But how? With pm or mail, or is there a suitable forum for that?