Do you like kissing/hugging/non-sexual romantic contact?

I enjoy hugging a lot. I like the comfort. I only ever kiss, make out kiss, when drunk so I've never had a proper 'first kiss' but when I'm intoxicated I'm very social and I've had quite a lot of drunken kisses.

I really enjoy hugging and cuddling, but I never really liked kissing all that much. It's good sometimes, but most times I could take it or leave it...which pisses a lot of people off apparently...Especially French kissing...ugh. It doesn't gross me out, but it doesn't appeal to me either. I've been told I'm a decent kisser, but not French-wise Which is fine because I don't really care too much about it.

Apparently replied to this six months ago with mostly a no. Things changed slightly to "somewhat, with women." I still kinda weird out that one of my male friends likes to pat my back at random times.

I like being hugged alot. I have trouble initiating hugs.

Kissing, erm, well the first time I did it was spin the bottle, at 15. I had crusty lips from mouthbreathing and eating cheetos at the party. And they talked about it. In front of me. It took 15 years for me to kiss again.

I like to cuddle. I had the opportunity when there was a girl, and we had a power outage in winter. So we got kinda close even after the power went on. I actually felt sorta different from myself for once. But neither of us seemed to want sex. I still like to cuddle.

I am going to change my answer to no touching at all.

No handshakes. No pats on the back. No hugs. No kisses. Stay away from me.

No...hell no! I do not like anyone ....family members included trying to hug, kiss, hold hands, or cuddle up to me.

If anyone tries. then I immediately I feel violated and imposed upon! In any case, my body language discourages familiarity and affectionate greetings --- I subconsciously send out subtle negative vibes that put most people off! Furthermore, I also make sure that I do not put my body within easy range! A quick firm handshake is the most I will allow.....and if someone does manage to disregard all the warning signals and still tries to hug me....I just kind of softly freeze and let their gesture slide off me --- like water on a duck's back and its over! Not responding is always a good move--- passive resistance...works! lol

By the way, I have not been intimate with anyone for over 25 years, do not have any friends, work alone (freelance), live alone (no pets or plants....only a few spiders who are allowed because they are part of the ecological system in my apartment. lol)---- and since my family and relatives all live on the other side of the world from where I live....I have been able to easily avoid all physical contact. It is pure bliss!

I really do not, I am not sure if I am naturally repulsed or if it's because I'm not used to it at all. Hugging seems unnecessary but I see their purpose for other people. However, I despise that shaking hands is a regular social convention in so many places.

PA11 wrote:I'm curious, because most physical contact outside of proper sex just seems utterly unappealing.

I do not know, i have not have such contact.
I have had friendly hugs and kisses and i didn't like them.

i do like the contact itself, very much. what i dislike is the self-consciousness that it brings almost invariably. almost invariably, though. so there are times when it can be rewarding

the problem is that it involves being conscious of your essential physical space as not only yours but someone else's too, so there's a lot of mental work involved, on something which you can normally just take for granted. which is why timing is important. the self-consciousness and the "hard work" are inevitable, but they don't have to happen at the same time as the contact itself. that's one of the main purposes of relationships as i understand them (developing that kind of timing)

on another note, all those things can be just as sexual as actual sex. any kind of touch, really. it just depends on mood, context, frame of mind and state of personal connection. though it also works the other way around. in the end sex is only a special case of the broader class of "things that work as a concrete and nonverbal type of company". the thing is that in the long run it tends to demand a lot of verbal and abstract effort, which is exactly what even brings the need for that kind of company in the first place

ganbaru wrote:i do like the contact itself, very much. what i dislike is the self-consciousness that it brings almost invariably. almost invariably, though. so there are times when it can be rewarding

the problem is that it involves being conscious of your essential physical space as not only yours but someone else's too, so there's a lot of mental work involved, on something which you can normally just take for granted. which is why timing is important. the self-consciousness and the "hard work" are inevitable, but they don't have to happen at the same time as the contact itself. that's one of the main purposes of relationships as i understand them (developing that kind of timing)

on another note, all those things can be just as sexual as actual sex. any kind of touch, really. it just depends on mood, context, frame of mind and state of personal connection. though it also works the other way around. in the end sex is only a special case of the broader class of "things that work as a concrete and nonverbal type of company". the thing is that in the long run it tends to demand a lot of verbal and abstract effort, which is exactly what even brings the need for that kind of company in the first place

Kudos to you! Speaking from my own personal perception and experience.....over the years I have come to realize that I do not really like to be touched at all (sexual or otherwise) ---- but I do remember how I used to analyze my reticence -- the why, the who, the where, etc. and I must say that you have very nicely and accurately described and explained....the whole situation! Thank you!