Do you avoid relationships and sex?

madjoe wrote:

cobra cat wrote:

So I am willing to play the dating game, but on my terms

no offens but that's what's wrong with the world
ppl want only the good not the bad
life is about what you want and what you are willing to do to get it
if you are not willing to take the bad with the good you don't want it
(i gues that's part of growing up right)
i want money but i'm not willing to work for it
gues what?
that's not how the real world works

I am willing to work for it. Just not that hard. Some people are too unpleasant for it to be worth it. Of course people don't want the bad. Why wouldn't you try and reduce the bad? Your argument doesn't make any sense to me. Equating relationships to work in this context is stupid. Relationships are voluntary whereas work is a means to survive. no offense but I'd appreciate it if you didn't preach down to me.

I agree with cobra cat. Work is the responsible thing to do and, in most cases, your job's going to suck. Having a relationship is a choice though, and it's something that should be enjoyed, not something where you take whatever you can get though you're not satisfied.

cobra cat wrote:

madjoe wrote:

cobra cat wrote:

So I am willing to play the dating game, but on my terms

no offens but that's what's wrong with the world
ppl want only the good not the bad
life is about what you want and what you are willing to do to get it
if you are not willing to take the bad with the good you don't want it
(i gues that's part of growing up right)
i want money but i'm not willing to work for it
gues what?
that's not how the real world works

I am willing to work for it. Just not that hard. Some people are too unpleasant for it to be worth it. Of course people don't want the bad. Why wouldn't you try and reduce the bad? Your argument doesn't make any sense to me. Equating relationships to work in this context is stupid. Relationships are voluntary whereas work is a means to survive. no offense but I'd appreciate it if you didn't preach down to me.

i don't have a problem with you wot willing to work for it
i'm just saying that you don't really want it if you don't want to put in the work
(not sure if i made that clear my mind sometimes wanders)

madjoe wrote:

cobra cat wrote:

madjoe wrote:no offens but that's what's wrong with the world
ppl want only the good not the bad
life is about what you want and what you are willing to do to get it
if you are not willing to take the bad with the good you don't want it
(i gues that's part of growing up right)
i want money but i'm not willing to work for it
gues what?
that's not how the real world works

I am willing to work for it. Just not that hard. Some people are too unpleasant for it to be worth it. Of course people don't want the bad. Why wouldn't you try and reduce the bad? Your argument doesn't make any sense to me. Equating relationships to work in this context is stupid. Relationships are voluntary whereas work is a means to survive. no offense but I'd appreciate it if you didn't preach down to me.

i don't have a problem with you wot willing to work for it
i'm just saying that you don't really want it if you don't want to put in the work
(not sure if i made that clear my mind sometimes wanders)

I'm sure theres someone out there who wouldn't drive me nuts

^ There comes a time in every longer relationship when your partner drives you nuts. This is why some people prefer short relationships. He didn't suggest that you should date people who you find unpleasant. I think he meant that everyone will be a little unpleasant in the long run, even the sexiest and nicest partner you can imagine. There are ups and downs in every relationship and you need to work for it if you want to make it worthwhile.
Probably schizoid traits make it even more difficult than normally.

under ice wrote:^ There comes a time in every longer relationship when your partner drives you nuts. This is why some people prefer short relationships. He didn't suggest that you should date people who you find unpleasant. I think he meant that everyone will be a little unpleasant in the long run, even the sexiest and nicest partner you can imagine. There are ups and downs in every relationship and you need to work for it if you want to make it worthwhile.
Probably schizoid traits make it even more difficult than normally.

If I care about someone, I'd try pretty hard to keep things running smoothly, unless it got to the point where that'd be impossible. My problem is that, on top of the fact that I'd be reluctant to form a relationship, making myself care would probably take a while.

cobra cat wrote:

under ice wrote:^ There comes a time in every longer relationship when your partner drives you nuts. This is why some people prefer short relationships. He didn't suggest that you should date people who you find unpleasant. I think he meant that everyone will be a little unpleasant in the long run, even the sexiest and nicest partner you can imagine. There are ups and downs in every relationship and you need to work for it if you want to make it worthwhile.
Probably schizoid traits make it even more difficult than normally.

If I care about someone, I'd try pretty hard to keep things running smoothly, unless it got to the point where that'd be impossible. My problem is that, on top of the fact that I'd be reluctant to form a relationship, making myself care would probably take a while.

Well, you never know until you try it.

under ice wrote:

cobra cat wrote:

under ice wrote:^ There comes a time in every longer relationship when your partner drives you nuts. This is why some people prefer short relationships. He didn't suggest that you should date people who you find unpleasant. I think he meant that everyone will be a little unpleasant in the long run, even the sexiest and nicest partner you can imagine. There are ups and downs in every relationship and you need to work for it if you want to make it worthwhile.
Probably schizoid traits make it even more difficult than normally.

If I care about someone, I'd try pretty hard to keep things running smoothly, unless it got to the point where that'd be impossible. My problem is that, on top of the fact that I'd be reluctant to form a relationship, making myself care would probably take a while.

Well, you never know until you try it.

I have. It went pretty much how I described a 'hypothetical' relationship would go. I feigned interest in things that were important to her. It took a long time before I cared about her. In fact, she said 'I love you' before I could even have said I genuinely cared. I mostly wanted sex, and was attempting to be normal. In the end though, we broke up because of her health, as opposed to my sparkling personality.

yes and yes.

Rhab wrote:I have dated a highly attractive and narcissistic woman who was very controlling, I found this to be an ideal partner. It was a treat to have her make most decisions, dominate conversations in public and not emotionally intrude.

She left me for a more attractive and wealthier man.

I missed her intensely for some time.

Being able to piggyback off a girl's social life like that actually sounds strangely appealing.