Is Dating worth it?

is dating worth it? no. just no.

roscid wrote:The concept of "dating" as a formal activity has always seemed odd to me. If I were to get into a relationship with someone it would have to arise organically somehow or else it would just feel very awkward for me.

Its weird for me too because I'm not interested in formal activities. Dating is a set of interactions and emotions between 2 people, not a formal activity, (formal activity being something highly pre-planned with set rules and expectations) - one of the expectations being people want to seek out a relationship for some specific reasons, e.g. usually wanting to settle down together and have a family.

Since I don't like the sound of those reasons, if I have a relationship with anyone it would have to be because I enjoy their company and spending time with them and that they feel the same way about me, plus the chemistry and sexual attraction bit obviously, but if not, I'm not about to go out there looking for relationships because most people's "end objective" is something I just don't even want.

So if one or both of the 2 people don't want those things, why bother? (i.e. both people have to want (roughly) the same things). As for dating, do all the fun stuff together because its fun or don't do it at all - if you have to put on some kind of social mask in front of the person you are trying to "date", there's a problem.

EmpathySucks wrote: But what makes buying a 20,000 dollar ring okay

Exactly who said this practice is "ok" ? lol

Dating, no.
Hookers, yes.

katana wrote:

EmpathySucks wrote: But what makes buying a 20,000 dollar ring okay

Exactly who said this practice is "ok" ? lol

I'm not sure if you're disagreeing with the price or the practice of wasting hundreds of hours of your life working to pay for a polished rock, but if it's the latter, I'd say every woman I've ever met says that it's not only ok, but a requirement.

Magic wrote:

katana wrote:

EmpathySucks wrote: But what makes buying a 20,000 dollar ring okay

Exactly who said this practice is "ok" ? lol

I'm not sure if you're disagreeing with the price or the practice of wasting hundreds of hours of your life working to pay for a polished rock, but if it's the latter, I'd say every woman I've ever met says that it's not only ok, but a requirement.

waste of time and money

Magic wrote:

katana wrote:

EmpathySucks wrote: But what makes buying a 20,000 dollar ring okay

Exactly who said this practice is "ok" ? lol

I'm not sure if you're disagreeing with the price or the practice of wasting hundreds of hours of your life working to pay for a polished rock, but if it's the latter, I'd say every woman I've ever met says that it's not only ok, but a requirement.

Hundreds? You should check your math. Minimum wage in the US is 7.25 (wikipedia) so we multiply that by 1000 hours and get 7250. Multiply that by 3 and you get 21,750 for a total of 3000 hours. And that's only under the assumption you have other expenses taken care of. Dunno how many hours you should add to cover expenses.

And those are just a simple ring + expenses. I still didn't mention how much money you would have spent pre-ring. And that's if you never put any money for your own luxuries. And we didn't take the upcoming marriage into account, either. So how much money did your "true love" steal from you up to this point? Smile, it's only going to get worse.

Ashlar wrote:Actually "dating" has never been something I understood.

I am HPD and I used to think like that do even while I date all people.

But finally I realized, dating is the best thing that can ever happen to your hormone system and emotional graph in your life. You talk about funny things, he laughs at your joke, he tell me fun things, he worries about me, i worry about him, share the fun things and good food(watch movies goether, get food and eat together and see each other's response/comments) teach the things both don't know well, (he links me lot of fun sites, pictures, stories)

you should believe that you can find someone that you'll love. it's lil bit hard cuz we are PD and we are rather aliens compared to nons. Find a girl from your own galaxy~ and life becomes great.

I think my galaxy is the one where everyone is a superhuman gladiator in a battle royale and there will only be one man standing at the end. Or at least, that's what seems to be recurring in my dreams lately.

I really find kind of sorry that lots of PDs have hard time learning how to enjoy the intimate relationship/love. I have had really hard time as well. But once you learn how to enjoy it it's like the best thing god ever presented human.

And trust me most of other guys alive are simply annoyance to me. I say A and they hear it as Z.
but my bf conversation is like amazing. He understands me so well.

i used to never could understand 'what is so fun about sitting on the grass in park with a guy? i might die out of boredom in that situation.... would rather read a book alone there.' 'what is fun about skating together with a guy... -.-'

but if you love someone everything becomes x 3000 fun

when you watch a movie, or read a book, aren't there more than 1 character in there? So you findi t fun right? Life levels up up up when there are significant ppl around you. how many books out there which have only 1 character in it could be so fun anyway?

EmpathySucks wrote:Hundreds? You should check your math. Minimum wage in the US is 7.25 (wikipedia) so we multiply that by 1000 hours and get 7250. Multiply that by 3 and you get 21,750 for a total of 3000 hours. And that's only under the assumption you have other expenses taken care of. Dunno how many hours you should add to cover expenses.

And those are just a simple ring + expenses. I still didn't mention how much money you would have spent pre-ring. And that's if you never put any money for your own luxuries. And we didn't take the upcoming marriage into account, either. So how much money did your "true love" steal from you up to this point? Smile, it's only going to get worse.

1) I'm not a ring expert, but doing a quick google search I'm only seeing a few over $5,000.
2) Not everyone works minimum wage
3) I'm not sure why I'm replying since I don't disagree with anything you're saying besides your numbers.
4) Crap, now I'm going to be getting wedding ring ads for the next month