Should We Change?

it's about time that we make a thread about this.

do you think that schizoids should try to change? does spd cause unnecessary pain to others? is spd okay as long as you take certain precautions (like not getting married because you can't provide for your spouse's emotional needs, stuff like that)? does spd make your life difficult? is it worth having little pleasure if you get little pain, too? and why am i asking so many questions?

i would add my opinion, but... i'm not totally sure what it is. i'm okay with being schizoid, and i try my best to take care of what few not-too-close family relationships that i do have. then again, i can really see how spd can mess up your life and i've had some problems with having no social network, no motivation, and no interests. i hear good arguments for and against.

so what do you all think? X3

EtherealStarlight wrote:it's about time that we make a thread about this.

do you think that schizoids should try to change? does spd cause unnecessary pain to others? is spd okay as long as you take certain precautions (like not getting married because you can't provide for your spouse's emotional needs, stuff like that)? does spd make your life difficult? is it worth having little pleasure if you get little pain, too? and why am i asking so many questions?

i would add my opinion, but... i'm not totally sure what it is. i'm okay with being schizoid, and i try my best to take care of what few not-too-close family relationships that i do have. then again, i can really see how spd can mess up your life and i've had some problems with having no social network, no motivation, and no interests. i hear good arguments for and against.

so what do you all think? X3

I think thats a personal choice. Speaking as a covert schizoid, there are definite benefits to making yourself seem normal. However, if you overdo it (which I did last year), it will wear you down mentally and make you apathetic for a while, making people think you have become depressed or that you became an a-hole out of nowhere. So whether you choose to act normal is a personal decision, and you should weigh the pros and cons, but don't make the mistake of overdoing it.

But now that I just re-read what you wrote, it seems like you are asking if we should reform ourselves, right? I don't think thats feasible. SPD is the least known about personality disorder, and most psychiatrists don't even understand it (or at least thats the impression I've gotten from my research). Our defense mechanisms are there for a reason. Disassembling them would probably have very bad results if not done properly in a controlled environment with a knowledgeable therapist.

As to whether it would be a good thing to get rid of, thats a trickier question. Most people seem to enjoy being normal, but it leads them to make more impulsive or emotional decisions which may not be beneficial to them. Such as having 3 (obnoxious) kids, and buying a house and car they cannot afford. An emotional life would be a double edged sword. It can be great or devastating.

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Rob [K] wrote:warning http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5xl4WN4La18

do you think that schizoids should try to change?

haven't the foggiest.... different stokes http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4LPn2Tx-0KE different folks

does spd cause unnecessary pain to others?

yup... not sure why??? i'll be there when i need to be is not an acceptable answer not bein there before things go bad = dont care i care!

does spd make your life difficult?

not sure if it is this or that... things just aint goin right???? ??

is it worth having little pleasure if you get little pain, too?

just http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJnKm6ftPu0

so many faces

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you sure like your youtube videos, rob. your posts are funny, it's a shame you usually delete them.

i kind of wonder if i even could change... it seems so terrifying to put myself out there and try to connect. it creeps me out just thinking about it.

I don't think you can change who you are just by putting yourself out there. You might make yourself a little more open but you will probably always be a schizoid

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I think that if you are unsure of whether you want to take the effort to try to be normal, look up how much money it costs to raise a single kid. Then factor in that people often have 2 or 3 kids. Then factor in that half of marriages end in divorce.

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