Does it bother you to think about sex

I'm not at all disgusted by sex, it’s no more revolting than anything else we do. However, I do need to have full control over my life and becoming sexually dependent on someone would make that impossible.

Darwinschild wrote:
I think women are going to have an different view about sex because their experience with it is so different. I suspect that is also why gay-sex is popular with a lot of straight women.

True, but there are also ways for a female to assert her dominance within a heterosexual relationship.

I'm meh about sex. I have vague attractions occasionally, but little to no desire to do anything about them.

Thinking about sex doesn't bother me, but the closeness of the act itself is incredibly disconcerting. I have a deep-seated need to be in total control over my personal space (meaning I absolutely hate being touched) and an inherent distrust of others (not in the paranoid sense, just that I find people unreliable).

These two factors combine to make sex or any sexual act incredibly uncomfortable. I can count the number of sexual encounters I've had on one hand, and that is honestly plenty for one lifetime.

SirEddington wrote:Thinking about sex doesn't bother me, but the closeness of the act itself is incredibly disconcerting. I have a deep-seated need to be in total control over my personal space (meaning I absolutely hate being touched) and an inherent distrust of others (not in the paranoid sense, just that I find people unreliable).

These two factors combine to make sex or any sexual act incredibly uncomfortable. I can count the number of sexual encounters I've had on one hand, and that is honestly plenty for one lifetime.

The physical closeness doesn't bother me if it's also consistent with emotional intimacy, or well, at least if it's not awkward. If it wasn't "there" then yeah, I wouldn't be feeling it at all, I would say "thanks but no thanks". Awkward sex is the absolute worst. At least, compared to verbal interaction, I'm much more self-confident when it comes to sex, I don't know if it's the other way around for some people?

XD Overt languid schizoid (verbal subtype)? -.-

Thinking about sex overall is just boring. I never could understand the obsession society seems to have with it. The only problem I have with sex is the physical/emotional closeness that is associated with it. I don't like being near people, and react almost violently when someone lays a finger on me. The overall concept of sex does not bother me at all, but the act itself does bother me somewhat.

Darwinschild wrote:I find I can think about it if it involves 2D characters in manga or anime, usually of the yaoi genre, but the moment it strays to humans, male-female or male-male, I don't want to think about it anymore. It's not something I necessarily want to change, but I wouldn't mind getting to the root of this reaction. It feels very adolescent'ish.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7n39RzgVNP8

Edit: and just to be fair:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stEXPIh9Qi0

I'm not so much worried or bothered by thinking about sex as I am trying to actually do it, in reality it means risking an STD, crabs or some other such nasty BS. Or even performance issues, which often aggravate and embarass me. And I don't have the money to see a doctor for that sort of thing, nor does the opportunity for sex ever present itself that much in my life that I need to have to worry about that sort of thing. This is why i am grateful for the internet and its abundance of free porn of all kinds.

I used to be able to deal with occasional physical closeness without any emotional closeness and vice versa, to say it in very simple terms. Trying to combine the two always ended up disastrously, but then again I'm not into random sexual encounters either.

thinking about sex doesnt bother me. What bothers me is just getting in the mood to actually do something about it. Feels like work this last couple years.