Does it bother you to think about sex

anagram wrote:I'm not sure if it's implied here that "female-female is no problem". Is it?

Sometimes it gets me kinda angry that some people seem to have "easy access" to sex without effort, commitment, bond, consequence, or specific "merit" of any kind. They just want it > mysterious magic > voilà, they have it > go on with their day. I don't understand how it even works, and bugs me because I wish I could have the same, and I know I most likely never will.

But I don't wish I didn't have a sex drive either, because without it I would probably be like a zombie that doesn't even want to eat brainz. Nowadays this sort-of anger doesn't last long when it happens (I'm actually not sure if this is a good thing or not). I'm more concerned with being able to enjoy my private private-time. Total inability to enjoy it is a bad sign (although not as bad as inability to enjoy music, which does happen sometimes).

I dunno, there's something about being a slave to animal designs that I find rather unappealing. Even though I myself am an animal. Whatever, I just don't like to be subjugated to some of the stupid sh*t my DNA codes for. Which is actually everything I do, but dammit that one is the most stupid. By stupid I mean the most frustrating. I just don't wanna deal with it, I wish eating pizza and being on my computer was enough...

anagram wrote:

Placid wrote:It's far better that I don't anyway, since this person is married and also my manager.

Dodged a few bullets there!

It's easy enough for me to talk like that at my computer, but being around her is totally different. Not that I would do something dumb like make my feelings obvious. But obviously it affects me enough to where I write about it on a forum. Oh, if only life could be simple. lol

EtherealStarlight wrote:i'm pretty grossed out when it comes to sex, so i guess you could say it bothers me some.

It's messy, but try complaining about that in the middle of it.

anagram wrote:

Vreedzame wrote:it would actually clear your mind and allow you to make decisions without being confounded by biological effects.

The thing is, it's not about decisions. There's no point in making any kind of decision if there's no expected outcome. It's about motivation. Without the most primitive motivations, I run the risk of having none. And that is never good.

Yes, but there are other primitive motivations beside the sex drive.

I'm not "bothered" by thinking about it in some sense. It doesn't negatively impact me or make me sick. It does, however, feel like a really base level primitive animalistic thing. It's a distraction, a weakness, a side-effect. I am so infinitely more happy to just cuddle.

anagram wrote:Sometimes it gets me kinda angry that some people seem to have "easy access" to sex without effort, commitment, bond, consequence, or specific "merit" of any kind. They just want it > mysterious magic > voilà, they have it > go on with their day. I don't understand how it even works, and bugs me because I wish I could have the same, and I know I most likely never will.

But I don't wish I didn't have a sex drive either, because without it I would probably be like a zombie that doesn't even want to eat brainz. Nowadays this sort-of anger doesn't last long when it happens (I'm actually not sure if this is a good thing or not). I'm more concerned with being able to enjoy my private private-time. Total inability to enjoy it is a bad sign (although not as bad as inability to enjoy music, which does happen sometimes).

I think that its annoying too. My roommate is like that, he has had at least one different girl here every semester. I was in the hospital for 2 days in march and he had 3 different women in our room in that time . I'd say hes not good or bad looking, nor is he especially charming. But even though I don't use it , I'd say my sex drive is a good thing because it helps me care about my appearance, which obviously helps with other things too

Thinking about sex does not bother me, but it usually stays away from real people I know, including myself. Fictitious characters are easier, because the why isn't a mystery to me. I can imagine what intimacy might feel like to others, even if it's not really a possibility for me. In that way it's kind of nice. The whole random sex without emotional context isn't really something I find terribly compelling on any level.

I prefer the idea of monogamous sex with little in terms of emotional connection, over the idea of hooking up with random different strangers. But thats just me

No it doesn't bother me.

Sex is a natural thing... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xat1GVnl8-k

It doesn't bother me at all, although I am constantly aroused (60/24/7), I just get on with things and it's just an annoying feeling in my loins that I wish I could ease, and some regular nympho/satyr fantasies in the back of my mind. If I thought about it actively i would never get anything done, and I don't have any impulses to do anything about it, beyond hoping one day someone I like hunts me down, that also enjoys it, and the relationship isn't a total dramatic one-way mess, and then well, abuses my drive.

If I had a casual or ordinary partner, I would like them to jump me fairly often, just to ease my drive a little and for the pleasure they would derive out of it, but I wouldn't think about it at all if they didn't. I suppose deep down, I would want them to jump me as frequently as biology allows, but that is just me, the way I am and my own personal drive I think.

If it's any consolation to those that feel it is messy, that is exactly how I felt too before my first time, I was like "I put what in where? ewwwwww" but when it came down to it, it's really nothing like I expected, it's so wonderful. In that respect, I really enjoy it and would welcome an opportunity to continue the pursuit someday.

I've never had a casual partner, but I guess if I try to be as open-minded about it as possible, if they enjoyed it that much, it might be ok for me as long as it was safe and wasn't just for the one time, as that wouldn't fulfill me in any way. There's no way I could have more than one partner at a time, even if they were ok with it, it would give me too much doubt and guilt-trip that I was doing wrong by them, and also, I wouldn't see the point, if I already have one partner to do things for, that is enough.

Thinking about sex clearly does not bother most of the men here -- what bothers them is being limited to only thinking about sex and not being able to act on their thoughts.

I think women are going to have an different view about sex because their experience with it is so different. I suspect that is also why gay-sex is popular with a lot of straight women.