nprkntlny wrote:You know,I used to think like that too, and still do to an extent. So I just want to let you know that most everything you believe about this is absolutely incorrect.
I've done the whole "just get over it" bit and forced myself to do things like a "normal" person, in order to stop being homeless and also feed myself. I've also worked with mentally disabled people (remember this because I'll be referring to it shortly).
Now, you may be right that without a safety net, someone might just be able to cope with things they otherwise couldn't do. I did that a lot actually, and whilst it did help me to expand my limits slightly, it also seriously worsened my schizoid traits and I got into a lot of bad employment and housing situations.
In the job I had, it was frequent to see that people who were just over the edge of the "disabled" line had the hardest lives. If you're fully and blatantly disabled you can actually have a good life, because people recognise you're disabled and you're taken care of a great deal. But if you're slightly disabled and no one recognises that, then your life can become very turbulent indeed (my employment and housing history is a classic example). So it's precisely because of this "it's just a personality thing, get over it you lazy, whiny brat" crap from others that people who are just slightly disabled can have a very hard time. Depression is common for these people.
I don't think you quite understand how the mind and body work. Although I do agree that SPD is not irreparable and not beyond control - but don't try and twist this into making it sound easy to do, because it's not. You are obviously not schizoid, and you have no interest in learning about what it entails and why it can be such a problem, but you might want to make even a slight effort if you're going to be posting here. But a lot of what you just said was very dumb, so I'm leaning towards a 80-20 troll-genuine possibility here.
Being on the edge of the disabled line is harder you say? Sorry but I can't believe this kind of nonsense. Should I be envious of a deaf man? Of a cripple? Of someone with down syndrome? Just because they're all "officially" disabled? Dammit they'd rather be in your place I think, no matter how serious your issues are, you're still relatively healthy and sane (I assume you are, sorry if you're not, nothing personal here) and that makes you muuch luckier than them.
I remember in high school I used to work with a girl for a school assignment, and she had a "cystic fibrosis" and could not be sure she'd make it past thirty, on top of being very weak and barely able to attend classes for too long. What if I met her today, do you think I could say something like
ooooh you're so luckyyy to look as sick as you truly are! How I envy you... this $#%^ would not fly. Yes this is very obvious and quite extreme actually, but I had to make a point here.
Regarding my very own issues : I have seen a psychiatrist for 3 years who diagnosed me with schizoid pd, communication disorder (w/e that means, idc) and stuff like that. I would say im much more "anormal" than most here if the posts I read every once in a while are to be trusted. I do not wish to make this a competition anyway, so that's hardly relevant and do not impact at all my insights on the matter. Just because Ive been diagnosed does not mean I'll sit there and whine all day, Im very flawed and overall kind of terrible for not WANTING to change, it has nothing to do with not BEING ABLE to change. Perhaps it is to case to a certain extent but nothing severe enough to explain such a behavior, I'm perfectly aware of that.
Good for you for actually taking risks and working (I mean it). Just thinking about it sends a chill down my spine.
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