Does your family know you have SPD?

That sounds hardcore, wickerwoman.

wickerwoman wrote:My mom and brother both still think I'll grow out of it. I'm 37.

That´s ludicrous beyond belief and painfully realistic at the same time.

Knowing and understanding ... my father knows the term but he doesn´t understand. I made it an experiment and involved him. His attempts are admirable but futile. I think this undertaking was a mistake.
My mother and other siblings are not even aware of the term. I wonder why it took that long to cut them off.

My dad thinks everyone has a personality disorder, and that it's normal to have one. My mom said there's nothing wrong with me and that I don't need any help. She seems to think i'm normal because my brain is still functioning... Well anyone can have a functioning brain, can and will be still ******* up in the head, her boyfriend has schizoaffective disorder and he's MY age, but that's not my fault and he can be abusive when triggered and she was okay with him beating me up and he forgot all about it, but yea rwhatever. My grandmother on her side "lost her mind" and died in her 30's, so my mom thinks that if you're not able to take care of yourself then that is when you really need help. I dont thinks so.. You can't look at SPD from a distance, you have to actually take a look at it from the inside. They say it's not good to judge a book by it's cover, the reason why is it' might come up with a bunch of empty pages and you wouldn't even know had you not OPENED the book and looked through it. I feel like a book with a cover and empty pages, I think that is the worst part of SPD, you may look normal on the outside--- but on the inside it is like a hollow cave, or an empty book

My mom knows that I have SPD, though I'm not sure if she knows what it is exactly, the psychiatrist never really explained it. I have been seeing psychiatrists and therapists since elementary school, back then though it was because I got into fights occasionally.I stopped going because all the people I hated left and I wasn't getting into fights. Later, my mom noticed my lack of friends, I did have friends, I just didn't do anything with them outside of school. She would also force me to go to her friend's parties. If I refused she would yell at me and threaten to take my computer away, the only thing I truly care about in this world. At the event I would usually sit in a corner and read a book until we left, which sucked cause I hate reading. If I didn't have anything to do I would make my mom hate bringing me as much as I hated being brought, by annoying her or my sister. I had issues with my sister too, I would intentionally provoke her and still do, then sit on her when she started being an a%% back. So all of that lead my mom to make see a psychiatrist again. Who diagnosed me with schizoid and said something about autism, I don't remember exactly what though. My mom sat in the sessions with me so she knows. I also told my dad so he would stop saying I had aspergers, but didn't explain the symptoms so again I don't think he knows what it means. His response was: never tell anyone about it, because it sounds like schizophrenia. so there ya have it.

My mum believes I have aspergers because of some tests that was done with regards to IQ, there were certain things I did differently to other children that the examiners thought was unusual ( allegedly...I can't remember , I was 3 years old).


There wasn't a single toy I ever owned in my entire childhood that didn't get ripped apart or broken into bits , much to my parents frustration.

But at school I was considered retarded and I was behind severely on my reading and writing, I always had to sit with the dumb kids (who were actually often moved to "special schools" later on).

Although I normalised education wise over time the social reclusive side stayed the same.

Does your family know about SPD? Was or is it worth to tell them? How did you get to know about your own spd? Was it official? If official was it just an confirmation or a surprise?

Mine does not. I also think it is not worth to tell them. They wouldnt undestand.

I went to visit a psychiatrist for work related problems. By that time I knew nothing about psychology, but started to investigated it on my own. My diagnostic is not official, my therapist says I have a schizotypal personality but that I could deal with it. I agree, although I think a highly functional schizotypal is still more "disordered" than a full blown histrionic for instance.

I choose the thread title, because a similar thread at NPD forum. But unlike the gay man, who discovers that he is gay and get out of the closet, we are the quite opposite. I think some of us have engaged in sexual activity because we were told sex is good, and discovering about assexuality and spd was like going back to the closet.

My immediate family does, but I'm not sure if it was worth telling them. I doubt they understand what it's really about, especially since in finnish it's called "reclusive personality disorder" (or something like that), which just made them go: "Duh, obviously you're reclusive, why do they diagnose such things?".
I've later tried to explain it to my mother more in depth, but I'm still not convinced that she gets it at all.

lindi wrote:especially since in finnish it's called "reclusive personality disorder"

Didnt knew about that. I thought that those personality disorder names werent translated, and the only difference was in some PDs due to ICD and DSM was the conflicting nomenclatures. After all it is greek isnt it?

But I do find the idea, good. If I tried to speak schizotypal as half schizophrenic, my mother would problably get scared.

No. And probably never will. I wouldn't tell them, since i know that they would go full retard and start treating me special or something like that without even knowing what SPD is. They probably would confuse schizoid with schizophrenia.

stirner wrote:But I do find the idea, good. If I tried to speak schizotypal as half schizophrenic, my mother would problably get scared.

Some of them are "more translated" than others. Schizotypal for example is basically not translated, just made sound more finnish (skitsotyyppinen). Personally I might even prefer a scarier sounding name, 'cause now even doctors apparently confuse SPD and AvPD because they happen to sound similar in finnish In fact, some doctor had accidentally written AvPD in one of those reports (or whatever they're called) about me

Bringing up. I started the other thread

schizoid-personality/topic145115.html
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