Does your family know you have SPD?

Daven wrote:Sp does anyone here think that they should know? - I'm getting the impression that it's mostly no (or don't care) from these posts, except the person who said they're supportive of the diagnosis (overt schizoid).

again not my Dx but, no they don't need to know but I'm also not 20 anymore. Age may play into this. My units, nope and no communication for the most part either.

Daven wrote:Sp does anyone here think that they should know? - I'm getting the impression that it's mostly no (or don't care) from these posts, except the person who said they're supportive of the diagnosis (overt schizoid).

Well for me I don't think they need to know because I rarely see my father and try to have minimal contact with my mum. My view on it is that I treat them just like any other human being, I don't think of them better purely because they are my parents. May seem a little cold as mot of society seems to think "blood is blood" and parents/siblings should always be loved but that seems really stupid to me. I just don't like my parents as people so I treat them just like I would treat any other adult I don't really like - avoidance.

Daven wrote:Sp does anyone here think that they should know? - I'm getting the impression that it's mostly no (or don't care) from these posts, except the person who said they're supportive of the diagnosis (overt schizoid).

Well, in case it was not clear from my other post, my family does know, and they have been told about it in no uncertain terms. It's not that I wanted to involve them — I really didn't, and was actually very reluctant to. But at one point last year I had no option (or at least no better option), so I did involve them. It was a frickin nightmare at the time, but then again, everything was a frickin nightmare for me at the time.

Now that it's water under the bridge, I think it's actually not a bad thing. I used to have a glowing neon sign on my forehead: "Just leave me alone, will ya?", and it didn't seem to work very well. Now I have a permanent sign on my door, instead: "Please just leave me alone — DOCTOR'S ORDERS!". In the long run I'd say it works better this way, and it avoids a lot of unnecessary fuss.

I keep my family at arms length.

cool thread.
i love when ppl start threads which my brain would not have come up with through lifeteime

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cool thread.
i love when ppl start threads which my brain would not have come up with through lifeteime

My family do know I have SPD. I told them so they would stop saying that I have Asperger's syndrome. They even managed to convince me that I had it at one point.

Told them and exposed to them many documents about schizoid personality disorder until they understood what it was about. Still, considering the recent "outburst" of my mother whining that i never give a call, that i don't care about family and that i'll be left alone, i guess they totally ignored what i said back then.

Oh well, when i'll get economically independent, they won't see my face again anyways, not my problem.

questioning_life wrote:

Mansion wrote:My family doesn't know. I've tried to be more open with them lately, but they don't know the names for what's going on. I've just told them some of the symptoms.

if they know symptoms they have not researched them? Come to think about it, my parents know certain symptoms and have never done anything about knowing that with having different issues then you all.

Not really. My relationship with my family is superficial, and largely (for me) a function of masking. They argued with me when I explained about the masking, and have since, to all appearances, basically ignored what I said. It effected very little change.

Daven wrote:Sp does anyone here think that they should know? - I'm getting the impression that it's mostly no (or don't care) from these posts, except the person who said they're supportive of the diagnosis (overt schizoid).

I think it depends on what you want your relationship to be like with them. If you want their support or understanding, and you think telling them would effect that, then yes, I say tell them.

I'd venture to guess that a lot of posters here come from indifferent or toxic family situations; Schizoid PD is, as far as I understand, primarily an attachment issue. That's why there are a lot of posters saying "no" or "indifferent." When family support is an oxymoron, it's unimportant, or undesirable, to give family the info.

Personally, I don't care. I tried to open up and be honest, to have some semblance of a family relationship, and it made no difference. If they attempted to understand, or talk to me about it, I might, but I'm not going to force it.

I dont se them anymore. Children or parents.

nocturne wrote: Children or parents.

Your own children? Or your parents' children (as in your siblings)?