A little story + some questions

Miss Guess,

When I say "In my experience being loved (in a romantic sense) is akin to having a knife held firmly against my throat, what I feel is pressure, suffocation, overwhelmed, obligated, worry & anxiety.

These feelings are multiplied if I feel the girl thinks I might have feelings for her.

Good luck in your quest, but don't hold your breath.

Rob_Roid wrote:Miss Guess,

When I say "In my experience being loved (in a romantic sense) is akin to having a knife held firmly against my throat, what I feel is pressure, suffocation, overwhelmed, obligated, worry & anxiety.

These feelings are multiplied if I feel the girl thinks I might have feelings for her.

Good luck in your quest, but don't hold your breath.

Do you think you would feel differently if these feelings were mutual and you felt romantically toward her? I have been attracted to people, at times even have people attracted to me, but never were things mutual so I don't know if I would feel so averse if we felt the same about each other.

guess.who.loves.you wrote:I asked him: "Could I visit you someday?" And he told me: "Well, I would get super nervous, not only with you but with anyone". Then I told him: "So I will never meet you IRL", he answered: "We don't know". I feel this answer like "No". I mean I'm borderline, for me it's white or black, there's no gray.

How is that a no? That's not even remotely a no. He's just letting you know that he's nervous when meeting people, and perhaps asking for reassurance that you won't mind.

Do less of the dumb. You want to, so do it. If it all falls through then that's life. But, don't regret your $#%^.

Crap, at least you can say you like somebody. Spent the last year jerking myself around over a girl I like, but never got up the balls to say so. Put yourself out there a little ways (or a lot) and make yourself available to him. The situation will change, for better or worse, but at least you won't be stuck in #######5 ass limbo.

guess.who.loves.you wrote:A psychologist told me that I feed his ego, that's why he doesn't want to lose contact with me.

What do you think, am I feeding his ego?

Yeah, that is what psychologist call having a relationship, when they agree with it.
Is this psychologist jealous or something? lol