How would you react if someone told you they liked you?

There's a small chance that telling her how you feel about her every month could have some negative long term consequences. She might eventually start feeling guilty towards you. Or she may become uncomfortable with you.

Not very probable, but still possible, so caution is advised.

If I didn't find them attractive, I may avoid them. I don't know.

If I found them attractive, I may go with it.

Either way, I'd have to figure out their 'angle'. Why do they think I'm attractive? What advantage do they hope to gain? What motivated them to express this?

cherrybombx wrote:well hallo there guys :3

anyway,
I started to really like someone, were really close friends we have been for years.
I did in the end tell her how I felt after needing to let it out! I hate being emotional but I had to in that situation. To be honest she didn't seem to care, she told me shes really sorry but her brain doesn't work that way and if she could make it easier with her feelings she would, she said I could let it out to her anytime. We do still just carry on as normal friends, she doesn't act different because of it which helps alot.

I found out she was shizoid soon after and sometimes I really need to let out to her how I feel. I don't do it often, when I really need to maybe once every month/2months however to anyone that's probably a pain in the butt especially for someone who doesn't get those feelings. (I'm trying me bestest to stop however at the moment my brain doesn't want to) >_>

Just thought id get a shizoids point of view, i'm not labeling but your views would be best.

Would you find it awkward if a close friend told you about their feelings?

Thanks for comments & honesty guys

X

I havn't had a "confession" style encounter since high school I think? Then I behaved awkwardly, rudely, offensively, or ran away.

There was one incident on schoolbus where I was completely blindsided. At the time I had a very short list of female friends who I could manage to talk to, most of which were dating friends of mine. This girl, I believe, mistaked my comfort for interest in her at some point. I physically changed seats to get out of the situation in a panic and she significantly reduced interaction with me from that point forward. I regret my reaction on some level because I can realize now that I could have liked her, I just hadn't even considered the prospect up to that point.

In retrospect, I think I realized that a female friend of mine was "courting" me for consideration as a boyfriend after she broke up with her last guy. I'm fairly certain there was no mutual chemistry there and she was just fishing. If it would have come to such an encounter at the time, I probably would have spazzed out again. I'm older and wiser, but ill prepared for such things.

At the end of the day, you're not dealing with a diagnosis but a person, and every person is quite a bit different. That said, my personal feelings as a schizoid are that there's just not a lot of limerance in there, and any deeper emotional attachment or affection than that is highly unlikely.

I also will agree with the posters that want to know "why" someone feels such a thing. It's equally incomprehensible to me. I have a high level of self confidence and I like myself just fine, but I can't fathom why someone would be interested in me in a romantic type-way. It's incomprehensible.

GeorgieDavis wrote:

Pahahah

-- Mon Mar 04, 2013 9:54 am --

Thanks for your comments and your honestly guys! ;D
Yeah I think id just keep my feelings to myself, She's very polite when I tell her, I don't think she knows how to react to be honest. She lies & says I'm not being a pain in the butt :3 However I know I am so I'll have to help her with that one... For some reason I find her emotional coldness quite interesting! & The fact that I find her humour similar to mine is a win because not many people have that kinda silly humour. I have told her the reasons why I liked her when I first told her & she said she was touched and she'll keep that message for when she feels sad so I think reasoning with it does help however now by seeing your guys comments it has helped i'm going to keep that shet to myself but yeah everywuns a different individual but hay atleast I have alot of your guys point of views to mould together which should be kinda simular anyway to her views.

For some reason I find her emotional coldness quite interesting!

That's exactly why I think Schizoids are quite often attractive people. My emotional spectrum (as in my internalised spectrum) is so narrow, that I never stress, I never freak out, get enraged, lash out or behave negatively towards anyone. I am calm in what others see as highly stressful situations. To others, I suppose I appear to be a highly confident, self-controlled pillar of stability, and people do find that attractive. Though when they make their feelings known to me, I have no choice but to turn them down. I could never be the man they need in a relationship, and it could never end well. But I have to do it in such a way that doesn't negatively reflect on myself (I have had to turn down several colleagues over the years for example, whilst maintaining my general persona and reputation). My usual response is 'I'm very flattered, but I don't date people I work with as it tends to get very complicated, and never usually ends well'. This has served me well enough. All of my so-called 'friends' are people I work with, so hopefully this should suffice for many years to come.

If someone from outside of work told me they liked me, there would be a choice for me to make. Do I be honest and answer as my schizoid self, or should I let my external persona deal with it in a way I think a normal person would. It's something I haven't really thought about before.

cherrybombx wrote:Would you find it awkward if a close friend told you about their feelings?

Akward? No. But I would probably think "please don't do it to yourself...".

IceBlock wrote:

cherrybombx wrote:Would you find it awkward if a close friend told you about their feelings?

Akward? No. But I would probably think "please don't do it to yourself...".

do what 2 themselves?

The missing word is embarrass.