How would you react if someone told you they liked you?

well hallo there guys :3

anyway,
I started to really like someone, were really close friends we have been for years.
I did in the end tell her how I felt after needing to let it out! I hate being emotional but I had to in that situation. To be honest she didn't seem to care, she told me shes really sorry but her brain doesn't work that way and if she could make it easier with her feelings she would, she said I could let it out to her anytime. We do still just carry on as normal friends, she doesn't act different because of it which helps alot.

I found out she was shizoid soon after and sometimes I really need to let out to her how I feel. I don't do it often, when I really need to maybe once every month/2months however to anyone that's probably a pain in the butt especially for someone who doesn't get those feelings. (I'm trying me bestest to stop however at the moment my brain doesn't want to) >_>

Just thought id get a shizoids point of view, i'm not labeling but your views would be best.

Would you find it awkward if a close friend told you about their feelings?

Thanks for comments & honesty guys

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Welcome.

Schizoids are pretty strange lot in that our emotions [especially displaying the limited emotions that we have] are extremely limited. Therefore, your friend was acting exactly as most schizoids would in that situation: polite but firm. She may go through life never being emotionally attracted to others, whereas the "normal" humans are attracted to a dozen people a day.

Have a look through the other topics and resources for more insight into us.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bfx7izBNHeI

cherrybombx wrote: Would you find it awkward if a close friend told you about their feelings?

Well yeah, but then I think most people would feel awkward unless the feelings were reciprocal. I've never had a close friend, so i'm not sure how I would react in this situation, but i'm pretty sure I would shun them without any remorse.

I would find it awkward and I wouldn't want them to say it again.

I'd probably abuse her if she was hot.

I don't have close friends. But whenever someone has told me in the past that they're attracted to me or have feelings for me, I tend to avoid them categorically. It sounds like your friend is more forward than I am.

I'd say "sorry I'm not interested in relationships", which if you were a 'close' friend of mine, you should already know. I might elaborate on the fact I'm a loner and asexual if you asked why.

Then I'd cut contact with you because I experienced this once before and the guy in question kept on hoping, dropping hints and then getting depressed. So I actually thought no contact would be kinder to him and easier for me.

it would probably scare me. it makes me really uncomfortable when anyone displays any closeness towards me. i'd probably react by getting nervous.

awkward maybe, but doesn't life contain awkward? depends who it is, i would reckon if it appears to bother a person they at least care - (in most cases i dont give a ###$ how most people feel about me.)

if a person seems to be holding back it might be more complex than just being schizoid though PD like SPD could play a large part, (and recovery from PD or depression or a few other things can mess with people too.)

In the past i've found one minute people are trying to prod and poke me, play with me, try to get me to fall in love with them, then if i show any signs of being friendly or more, they've started despising me, acting as if they think im pathetic and must be hopelessly in love with them. if i appear more detached and distant they'd appear miserable and complain of unrequited love.

Yes there is a problem with me, but i can't help thinking i am not the main issue with the other person and that part of this is a cycle of their own behaviour/needs where they are trapped in the need to experience those two opposing states towards someone for some reason.

I'm looking for some level of recovery (or more than some level when it comes to certain problems) and there's a possibility for ongoing close relationships in there, but when i begin to appear more open to the idea they seem to end up feeling the need to find me pathetic and potentially hate what they perceive as vulnerability... which are things I can't help by answering this question.

Yes there is something wrong with me... I'm very switched off lately, more switched off than is normal for me. But I wonder if their cycles of how they react to me play into that shutdown/detachment and the shutdown/detachment plays into the need for those cycles, at one end of them at least. I guess that might be one reason for any awkwardness on my part, beyond whatever is more to do with me.

EtherealStarlight wrote:it would probably scare me. it makes me really uncomfortable when anyone displays any closeness towards me. i'd probably react by getting nervous.

I guess I might relate to this but i'm not a ######6 chicken, so i dont think it would account for me being overly standoffish beyond what would be normal for me either.