Schizoids Dating Schizoids.

I met a guy who I'm about 99% sure was also schizoid. We got along pretty well as friends in that we both hated parties and were able to avoid talking to other people by talking to each other. It was nice not to be treated like quite such a freak by everyone since I was "in a relationship" and it was interesting to see reflected back to me exactly why I piss other people off so much. But the fact is, that it pissed me off a bit too after awhile. I had to make all the decisions because he just didn't care either way about anything, didn't really want to do anything, would just walk away in the middle of conversations, would go days without speaking to me but would pop up whenever he needed a favour...

I'm pretty sure he was close to asking me to move in with him after graduation but I just didn't want to do it and froze him out until he moved to another city and I never saw him again.

The fact is that some of the core schizoid traits are just fundamentally unlikeable and unattractive. It kind of sucks to ask other people to put up with that level of rudeness, passivity and disinterest and I'd be really suspicious of anyone who was willing to tolerate it. And I'd feel constantly guilty about inflicting it on other people but wouldn't be able to help myself.

So for me, I just think any kind of relationship is a bad idea, whether with other schizoids or not. But your mileage may vary.

wickerwoman wrote:The fact is that some of the core schizoid traits are just fundamentally unlikeable and unattractive. It kind of sucks to ask other people to put up with that level of rudeness, passivity and disinterest and I'd be really suspicious of anyone who was willing to tolerate it.

Yes, many traits are indeed repulsive, but some traits may work as magnetism.

...Does anyone else on here have Bipolar or depression? (I am thinking at least one person does... : ) .

wickerwoman wrote:The fact is that some of the core schizoid traits are just fundamentally unlikeable and unattractive. It kind of sucks to ask other people to put up with that level of rudeness, passivity and disinterest and I'd be really suspicious of anyone who was willing to tolerate it. And I'd feel constantly guilty about inflicting it on other people but wouldn't be able to help myself.

Other people presumably expect you to 'put up' with them, so you would think they were capable of the same in return.

creative_nothing wrote:

wickerwoman wrote:The fact is that some of the core schizoid traits are just fundamentally unlikeable and unattractive. It kind of sucks to ask other people to put up with that level of rudeness, passivity and disinterest and I'd be really suspicious of anyone who was willing to tolerate it.

Yes, many traits are indeed repulsive, but some traits may work as magnetism.

Yes, there's a lot of broken people in the world who are attracted to people who treat them badly. And ignoring, avoiding, not speaking to, refusing to share with, leeching off and not really feeling attracted to someone who loves you is treating them badly. Some people are attracted to that, but I'd rather not take advantage of someone who is.

That was not what I was talking about. I was talking about the schizoid hunger, the in/out programm the pull/push game.

creative_nothing wrote:
Yes, many traits are indeed repulsive, but some traits may work as magnetism.

So some of your traits (and those of others) work as magnetism? Which traits of yours are 'repulsive'?

angelinbluejeans wrote:

creative_nothing wrote:
Yes, many traits are indeed repulsive, but some traits may work as magnetism.

So some of your traits (and those of others) work as magnetism? Which traits of yours are 'repulsive'?

Why dont you tell me angelin?

I have found nothing exactly 'repulsive'...haha... so there is none ...

angelinbluejeans wrote:I have found nothing exactly 'repulsive'...haha... so there is none ...

And what attracts you?
What keeps you away? Distance?