clumsy and heavy handed

I feel guilty about this, the fact that I am just too heavy handed at times with things. like with pets I just get too enthusiastic and have poor judgement ,my intention isn't bad but I am just too rough sometimes and I can't seem to keep that in mind when interacting with something that might be weaker than me. I feel quite a lot of guilt over actions and things which have happened in the past due to my stupid inability to be conscious of this.

I think that it is good that you have insight into this. This is the first step in working on it and changing your behaviour. If you can try to drop the guilt and concentrate instead on changing things.

I am here if you want to talk

Cracked

The thread's a month old and you may not be back to it but... I sympathise with your heavy-handiness and I certainly made a connection when you mentioned pets; after moving in with my (then) fiancée she would frequently tell me I was too rough with her cats, which was evident with all the scratches I got (and get) on my hands!

Are you an overly stressed person, do you sleep enough, do you have the opposite problem and, say, drink too much coffee? These type of events could all have a bearing and I feel although you say you have a high enthusiasm level generally (which is usually a good thing) there's probably an underlining issue that, when targeted, may help alleviate how you react.

I agree with Cracked; you have to let go of the guilt factor, whatever it is, because regardless it definitely isn't going to help you in the long-run. I don't know if that's something you can do on your own or if you need professional help to combat it but good luck.