Is this molestation?

I remember when I was 11 or 12 my sister was 4. I would watch both of my younger sisters at times. My parents were going through a divorce and I was left sometimes with my sisters. But the one who was about 4 I would take a bath with her and see if she would suck my boobs. This happened once or twice then I think I realized it was wrong. I also babysat a young baby boy sometimes I was around 12 and tried the same thing although I did not force anything nor did anything happen.

With my sister I would ask her to take a bath with me. It happened maybe twice and I feel horrible when I think I did that. I'd also dress her up sometimes and put make up on her. I was 11 so I don't feel I really know what I was doing.

I still feel horrible if it comes to mind. Any help is appreciated. Should I tell my sister this? We are close now. Am I an abuser?

Heya,

Molestation (i.e. child sexual abuse) is generally considered as abuse that is performed from an adult to a child, and not a child to a child. At the age that you were, you were a minor and Im' not entirely sure how the law would view your situation if it were to go to court. I think that situations like yours are actually quite common and that the majority are forgotten about. Also, the kind of 'abuse' that you imparted in your youth was nowhere near as serious as other types of abuse that I have come across in my time here.

So, I think that your aim should be to try to become comfortable with the reality that what happened all of those years ago cannot change. They happened, you've suffered, and hopefully you have learned. If your current relationship with your family members are going fine, then they should stay that way. An option is to go toa counsellor to talk about it.

If you ever feel that you need to confess to your sister, then you should definately consult a professional first in order to find out the best way to do it.

Take care
Kevin

Thank you for the reply. I think I need to forgive myself. I did learn and know it was wrong. I may have already confessed it to her. I don't remember but another family member said I did. Our relationship is good and normal.

Hey duster

This sounds like something a therapist could help you with. It would help you to work through the guilt you feel and figure out what happened and why it happened. I am glad you have a good relationship with your sister now. Please consider therapy as I think it would help you work through this and feel better and more at peace with yourself.

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