Is this molestation?? My god i wanna die

again thanks for your help, but i feel like when she will get older and she will learn what is NOT appropriate she will hate me....also i have noticed that when we were in the couch and we were watching tv she wants to be right next to me, she takes my hand and put it around her and she says that she likes it cause she feels like "little bird" and warm and 2 times she caught my chin and she kissed me hard in my cheek...is this normal behavior for a six years old girl??

I dont think she will hate you when she gets older. As for her behaviour, it is difficult to tell. It could be innocent or it could be a sign of precocious sexuality - which has warning bells attached to it that perhaps someone else is doing something to her. But i think the most likely answer is that she loves you and is expressing her affection - she may have associated you with the good feeling she is having and that is why she is being quite full on - perhaps to see if you will do it again, but I really dont think you have done anything wrong and I dont think she will hate you when she gets older. I think she is most likely going through a normal stage of child development.

Cracked

this behavior happened just once and her father was there...i dont think that she is waiting for me to make her feel good cause its been a long time since i was telling her to get down from my leg....she is no more asking for knee bouncing or tummy rubbing...and once she asked if when she will get older i will hang out with her and her friends...and i told her that an adult is not appropriate to hang out with little girls....and a 27 years old guy etc. who hang out with 13 years old girls is usually a bad person...and she replied by saying: "do you prefer to be bad or NOTto hang out with your cousins??" (that means she wanted me to hang out my cousins)...and i told her yes its ok to hang out only as cousins

OK. I do think this is nothing to worry about. Do you know why you are so worried about it? I mean I know the quick answer is because you dont want to be a child molester, but do you know why you continue to worry about it despite evidednce being to the contrary?

Thinking of you

Cracked

yes im worried because i want her to have a normal childhood and i love and i care about her well being and also as you said i cant accept the label of child molester its just too much for me

PS: i edited the previous message

I saw your edit thanks for pointing that out. I think she will move through this phase, I really do. As for your reply to my post you are doing all you can by the sounds of it to ensure she has a good childhood and show her you love her.

Cracked

yes thats what im doing, i want to be sure that she is ok and spend time with her (im not there all day just one hour a day) and do her favors because i feel guilty, yesterday we were playing all together with her family a board game and she was happy, and because of this i was also happy

I am glad.

Cracked

Just make sure you keep her line if she does try to do something. Other than that do what you are feeling. You want to make her happy, then make her happy. Nothing wrong with loving your cousin and wanting to see them happy. Just keep on this road and you are being an amazing older cousin to her . feel proud not ashamed.

You are nothing more than a doting, loving cousin. As such it is understandable that you are very protective of your little cousin, and as such you are very critical of things that go on around her. It seems to me that you've turned this critical eye upon yourself in this instance, and that can be very hard on yourself as there is nobody else involved to regulate the conversation.

Thank you for bringing your feelings to us so that we can try to help you through this, as you've seen in the other answers, the consensus is that you've done nothing wrong. Keep being a good cousin and I hope all goes well for you and your cousin.