Snaga wrote:Hello, and welcome to the forums!
I think you found yourself drawn into a situation that you really weren't comfortable with. I could.. tender some guesses about their end of the conversation, but I don't think it's really necessary.
I personally say you're going to have to just let this puppy go, as in my sig line, LET IT GO. I would.... not contact her again for any sort of reassurance (you mention OCD tendencies, so, Reassurance), I'd just let it go. I think, unless you in no uncertain terms told her flat out this is a conversation we shouldn't have, and you think you need to hang onto that, then I'd be tempted to delete the chat, if for no other reason, that if it's not there for you to review, you can't be tempted to stare at it, and ruminate- which is only going to feed that OCD.
The mental image that immediately sprang to mind, is me suggesting (as in a movie) to carefully place that conversation on the ground, and slowly back away... I mean that only a little facetiously, it's a pretty accurate image of what I have in mind. That you just need to walk away from this as if it never happened, and let the thing go, and not contact them again for any kind of follow-up (I know it's really hard not to), or respond if they try to contact you. As far as you're state of mind is concerned, this person seriously needs never to have existed, in your mind. Otherwise I worry that it's going to keep eating at you. We all do things that we seriously doubt the wisdom of, and this is one of them. As long as nothing further occurs I'd count myself fortunate, and try not to let myself get placed in the same sort of situation, again.
Try to be a little kind to yourself- also, remember your own age at the time! two, three years is not a wide gap, and the line delineating 'adult', from 'not adult', can be a bit arbitrary. In fact, in my country, oftentimes laws will take that into account- sometimes the age of consent can vary, depending on the respective ages of the parties involved, rather than an immovable line.
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