I can't stop thinking about this 17 year old girl

Honestly thinking about adding her back on sc (main account). Kinda curious to see how shed react. Tho I can't tell if I want to in order to show my brother (whom I've told about this) that I'm over her, or if I'm doing it just to see what her reaction would be.

-- Sun Nov 12, 2017 4:56 pm --

Alright. It's funny though, because I joined virped. There is no way this girl doesn't like me because I like her this much.

I'm going to jail for liking a girl - how ###$ is that?

-- Sun Nov 12, 2017 4:59 pm --

It's the things I've said to her are what make me feel guilty. I feel guilty for bringing out the monster in me. She was 17. Do y'all catch my drift

-- Sun Nov 12, 2017 5:06 pm --

She has so many guys hit on her. She brags about it and $#%^. Then brags about how abusive her father is. Tells me how $#%^ her bf is sometimes, even referred to him as a friend.

My dog died, working #######5 job, and now I can't move on. I had stuff I wanted to show her (like my yearbook photos in highschool lol but I didn't)

I vented to her friend, saying she was like the best thing ever, that I wanted to go hiking to discuss all of this, being a manipulative asshole, it's been about a month since.

I bombarded her with texts. All the time. We worked in close proximity as well (she always hit me on the shoulder, she knows I didn't have an ex, she flirted with me like all the time)

I miss that.. I miss her

LOL

Ted = Streamy. I'm positive. Nobody is this daft.

Whelp. Send me to a ######6 mental hospital I guess. LOL

-- Sun Nov 12, 2017 6:31 pm --

Guys.. I don't know why I'm feeling this way either. Am I just seeking attention? I just want.. sympathy I guess. I'm craving for it. I don't want to be a bad person and I already made myself look like one

-- Sun Nov 12, 2017 6:33 pm --

What's the ######6 solution

-- Sun Nov 12, 2017 6:46 pm --

Ok ok. I actually have the 4chan thread saved. If anyone wants to see it, pm me.

It doesn't sound like you've done anything that bad - you've just gotten way too intense over the situation. Are there any other topics you can force your interest on to?

As said, I agree that sending sexual messages to a 17-year-old is potentially dangerous territory, but as the folks on ASPD have pointed out, 19/17 is really pretty darn normal - and I'm only squicky about it cause of my own mistakes when I was a little older than yourself... most people wouldn't bat an eye at that age difference, so really it's more a matter of 1.) Not harassing someone if she doesn't want the attention. 2.) Being careful regarding the law and your own conscience. 17-year-olds are not tiny children, but they are still technically kids so at the very least it makes sense to back off until she's 18 and see if she still has a boyfriend and seems interested then! Unless she's literally just turned 17 it's not going to be that long!

sprock wrote:It doesn't sound like you've done anything that bad

Not yet...

I'm going to be a pedophile rapist. Self fulfilling prophecy. ######6 hell. I'm going to jail. My brother ######6 hates me. I want to shape up. I cant.

I'll wait for the documentary on Discovery.

The thing is she did just turn 17. We all went bowling for her birthday

-- Mon Nov 13, 2017 10:13 am --

Back in July..

Also the older coworker (that also works at red robin) says the girl in question has a little crush on me, made it a huge deal that she likes me and we should be together (but idk if that's because said girl liked my attention or something else) it's hard to say. I mean the only reason we stopped talking is because her friend told me to stop asking her out (because of her father/relationship status) or that I was genuinely harassing her..

-- Mon Nov 13, 2017 10:15 am --

It's a pretty funny situation tbh lol. I have no idea whether she likes me or not!

-- Mon Nov 13, 2017 10:18 am --

Also just wanted to clarify - I brought it up that we should go bowling, that's how the Facebook group became a thing haha

-- Mon Nov 13, 2017 10:34 am --

I'm just afraid I've distanced myself too much because of this whole snapchat thing..

justonemoreperson wrote:

sprock wrote:It doesn't sound like you've done anything that bad

Not yet...

I'm going to be a pedophile rapist. Self fulfilling prophecy. ######6 hell. I'm going to jail. My brother ######6 hates me. I want to shape up. I cant.

I'll wait for the documentary on Discovery.

let's hope not, eh

sprock wrote:As said, I agree that sending sexual messages to a 17-year-old is potentially dangerous territory, but as the folks on ASPD have pointed out, 19/17 is really pretty darn normal - and I'm only squicky about it cause of my own mistakes when I was a little older than yourself...

Exactly what I thought ! Insightful of you to acknowledge this.

sprock wrote:so really it's more a matter of 1.) Not harassing someone if she doesn't want the attention.

Agreed ... And if it's more complicated because sometimes people want a certain kind of attention but not another kind, then he can always attempt to unravel his own motivations and hers.

sprock wrote:


let's hope not, eh

Well, you can 'hope' and see if that works. Or, you can realise that anything said in this thread might have long-reaching consequences.

but as the folks on ASPD have pointed out, 19/17 is really pretty darn normal

Validating someone who has demonstrated violent thoughts towards a child is probably not wise.

But, like you say, let's hope not, eh?

You're the mod.

justonemoreperson wrote:

sprock wrote:


let's hope not, eh

Well, you can 'hope' and see if that works. Or, you can realise that anything said in this thread might have long-reaching consequences.

but as the folks on ASPD have pointed out, 19/17 is really pretty darn normal

Validating someone who has demonstrated violent thoughts towards a child is probably not wise.

But, like you say, let's hope not, eh?

You're the mod.

The OP clarified that in his state it wouldn't actually be statutory rape in his state (which, from the impression I got, is what he was talking about). I've addressed the fact that I do think his attentions, if unwanted, are inappropriate and too intense and that he needs to back off a bit. I've also stated that I think doing anything sexual (especially online) with a 17-year-old is hugely risky territory both legally and morally.

But the fact remains that a 19-year-old being attracted to a 17-year-old is not really pathological in-and-of-itself and hardly an unusual age difference (neither in terms of our parents' generation or now). Do you disagree with this?