Remorse levels/selective

I’ve always found it weird how people can be remorseful in one way (eg about a pet dog) but not in another way (eg a small ant). Ive also felt that I have little-to-no remorse or care for strangers or family and many people I know, yet I can feel remorseful about a few (2-5) of my friends. If I heard my sister was raped and murdered I wouldn’t care. I’d never do it myself, but I simply wouldn’t care. However if it were one of my close friends I wouldn’t be angry but I would instantly want to kill/harm the person who did it. Hence I was wondering if either ‘levels’ of remorse (eg people can have drastically varying amounts) or selective remorse (eg I wouldn’t ever hurt a close friend but wouldn’t care about anyone else) was a thing. Alternatively it may be more of me being possessive of my friends but I don’t know. Your thoughts?

I think that's true of everyone to a certain extent, though maybe not quite to your degree. I'd feel worse about punching my sister than, say, a guy who used to bully me at school, for instance.

As to animals - well, I'm vegetarian, but I still think the vast majority of vegans would feel worse about running down a cat or a deer than stepping on an ant, even if they would never intend to do either.

Sometimes I think my level of remorse is lower than others however I've c9me to the conclusion that I don't have low levels of remorse, in fact some people around me have high levels of personal sensitivities.

Objectly what warrants a reason to feel remorseful.? I think remorse is only warranted for serious wrong doings. I don't believe we should beat ourselves up with so much remorse. Our perception also plays a part because I could do something that a reaction or a particular behavior wasn't necessary. I have no problems with admission of being wrong however we have a lot of moments that misunderstanding was front and center so thefore one party is offended while the other party is lost and confused.

I have remorse when it is warranted, and if I don't it would be caused by lack of caring towards that particular situation. I don't see the emergency to react with remorse while another might perceive it necessary.