Should I feel guilty for this?

I'm back with another thing I've been feeling remorseful about. So basically I was sexting this girl and it was all going good, until she sent me a repuslsing video of a dog eating her out. I deleted the video immediately and told her not to send me anything like that again. She apologized and I said it was all good, so we continued sexting. After we were done I told her that she should never do anything like that again, as it is wrong, even though I tried to make it clear I wasn't putting her down. The question is should I geel guilty about sexting her even after she sent that, and did I handle the situation in the wrong way?

-- Sat Feb 04, 2017 2:59 am --

It is also important to not that the girl claimed it was something her ex would ask her to do, and not something she did regularly. Most of the videos she shared were old.

Why should you feel guilty about having put your selves back on the page you were intending to tread in the first place?
It's not your fault she brought that up, is it?

Consequently, it could be argued that she shouldn't be as severely condemned for such a foolish mistake on her behalf as she could just have been totally misguided by misleading hints aired by her ex-boyfriend, which, for an easily persuadable girl as she seems to be, might be decisive when it comes to pushing her over the edge, off into the abyss of immoral behaviour; due to her possibly lacking a well-grounded belief-system, code of ethics and set of norms and values.

I don't think you have anything to feel guilty about. The sexting was consensual and even if you disapproved of her behaviour, if you felt that she was a changed enough person or not so terrible that you were still interested in her (and she you) then I honestly don't see the problem! Also it sounds as though she may have been coerced into this behaviour, so maybe she was showing it to you so she could get an outsider opinion on what she did - much like people posting on this forum.

We had a slightly heated discussion on precisely the level of immorality in bestiality on here in the recent past so I don't really want to get into that argument again. In short, I'm pretty sure that the vast majority of us would agree that it is wrong, though I certainly don't see it as reprehensible as the sexual abuse/ assault of a person.

But at the end of the day how you feel about what she did comes down to you. There are people in my life who have done things which I feel crossed a serious moral line, but whom I have remained friends with (for often complex and varied reasons) and vice versa. That is always your call to make!

I do not think you have anything to feel guilty about , I am not sure why she sent you the video personally ,do you think she wanted support in some strange way by doing so, any how I do not think you did anything wrong. Take care.