Recently I have just been hit like a freight train with guilt, remorse and shame for what I did to my brother when I was 14 and he 7.
Bit of background before about me but not an excuse for my actions.. I had been hypersexualised at a young age by an older girl quite a lot; rubbing, touching etc. I then did this with friends my own age throughout my early childhood. Once the exploration with friends waned, albeit slightly, I continued to seemingly always be rubbing myself on things as this was the one motion I had learned felt good.
It was once the early teenage hormones kicked in that I became a monster.. I would rub on top of my younger brother, both clothed, and if memory serves kiss too. I knew it was so wrong but something told me it was ok as it hadn't affected me (little did I know). I think this happened on at least 3 occasions.
Now at 29 I am completely lost. My brother does seem to carry quite a few of the effects of csa; withdrawl, dissasociation.. and I am really at a loss as to how I can help. I'm trying to be the best brother I can but giving him his space too. I've had no indication that he even recalls the incidents.. so it's not my place to bring it up is it? Do I just wait until he wants to confront me?
It is absolutley killing me to see that I have caused my brother any sort of damage and I am now beginning to withdraw from everything I had known in my own life as a result. I would give up my own life to help my brother if that was an option. But I'm really not sure what to do now; losing my mind is a real possibility. Any responses to this situation would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.