TRIGGER WARNINGS: incest, sexual abuse, sexual compulsive behavior
I have some history of posting here, look my other posts up if you want the full story, but this I have never told anyone. To add the context: I was abused by an elder counsin (about 16yo) when I was about 8yo. The abused happened more than once and I don't know if that was real or not, but one time I believe a friend of his and my brother's participated as well (go to the next paragraph if you want to skip the rest of my own self abuse later). My family never found out about anything and eventually, God be thanked, my cousin died and it ended much of my torment (about 2 years ago, I am now 22). Still, for my entire sex life, I have had weird behaviors such as showing myself via webcam for strangers at the age of 14yo. That eventually became a compulsion, which later turned into a compulsion for actual sex with strangers - basically, a lot of self destructive behavior who gave me no pleasure.
The thing is, and I've never told this to anyone, not even to my psychotherapist, I remember that one time, when I was 12yo, I masturbated in front of my sister, who is 7 years younger than me (so she was 5yo). She kept acting like nothing was happening even though I was there exposing myself. I think that is my first memory of compulsive behavior (knowing what I'm doing is terrible but still not being able to refrain from it) and my only one of abusing someone else. I'm not really sure whether it was abuse since I was also a child, but I feel really guilty anyway.
My sister has always (since well before that incident) had hypersexual behavior (very early excessive masturbation) and despite her atitude of ignoring me at that specific incident she has always been really curious about my and my brothers' bodies. She is adopted and her biological family was abusive. I suspect that she was also sexually abused, even though she never told me anything. I even suspect that my cousin has abused her as well. Nowadays she is 15 and appears to take pleasure in being a sexual object for the boys at her school - she weirdly tells the family about what the boys say to her - very gross and indelicate things, such as the thing men yell at women on the street - and appears to be really happy about their behavior. I really worry that I might have contributed to her positioning herself as an object of abuse for men. The last thing I want is for her to end up like I did. It is the one last thing about my past and my abuse history that still feels like a huge weight for me - even though I am obviously still very f***ed up because of all the things that happened to me.