*mod edit* (when I was 19 or 20), I went to a get together with a bunch of friends. I knew everyone there except for one girl, and we all got completely wasted. I was lying down on the couch at one point, and the girl deliberately fell on me. Within a few minutes, we were making out, and we ended up going into a room to have sex (which was entirely consensual). We were at it for a few minutes before a few of my friends stormed in and ran around the bed as a "joke", and we quickly hid ourselves under the covers. They pretty much interrupted to tell me that they were going home and could give me a ride, but I declined the offer.
They left and we tried to start going again, but I couldn't get it up. We agreed to try again in a few minutes, at which point I was able to, but she was facing away from me while we were cudding (we were also both completely naked).
I have to be a bit more descriptive at this point, even though it was really blurry. I don't think I was fingering her, but I may have. What I do remember is that I was fondling her breasts while rubbing against her vagina with my penis (without putting it in). She was softly moanig, and moving along with it. Then at one point, she said "no" quietly, but she still seemed to be into it, so I kept going until she said it again, then I stopped for a few minutes.
Then this is my complete screw up. I was a complete idiot and thought of trying again as an act of seduction/harmless persistence. I had no intention of forcing anything, it was really just "trying one more time". So a few minutes after, I started rubbing up against her again, and once again, she seemed to be getting into it (more than before). I then started to slowly work it in (I didn't penetrate her though, it was really tight), and she said more assertively, "stop!". I quickly apologized, and we went back to cuddling and fell asleep.
She left early in the morning for work, and I never talked to her again after that. I'm not sure if she thought much of it. I never heard anything through her best friend (who I hung out with a lot at the time, along with her boyfriend). I hope she didn't see it as anything serious and that it didn't affect her.
But I've been seeing all these reports of rapists getting off the hook. Based on the disturbing details, I want to think, "wow, that's disgusting", but I get scared that it would make me a hypocrite if what I did was considered rape... This was a one time thing, and I've learned from it, but does this make me a rapist?
-- Thu Sep 15, 2016 2:14 pm --
By "her boyfriend", I meant my friend's boyfriend. The girl I was with was single. Sorry for the double post.