Article: 9 Ways to Be Accountable When You’ve Been Abusive

This is a really brilliant, compassionate article from the writer Kai Cheng Thom. It's worth reading in its entirety, but it was this quote which deeply resonated and I felt I just had to post here:

When we hold ourselves accountable, we prove that the myth of the “monster” abuser is a lie.

Women and men; guys and gals, please repeat that to yourselves.

[I also think these steps are generally good to follow although with the caveat that I think that most people in this sub-forum judge themselves far more harshly than others would, as is evidenced by the replies. Also, many of you here committed inappropriate acts as children and while I think regret is healthy, I do not personally believe that adults should be condemned for their actions as children, when their brains were immature and developing. Finally, in cases where the survivor doesn't remember what happened/ seems to be totally fine, happy or recovered/ or simply doesn't want to talk about what you did, always respect that first!]

All the best,
-Sprock