I just needed to get it off my chest. I've come to the realisation over the past few years that I've harshly mistreated and abused all of my ex-girlfriends. I have BPD as my primary diagnosis, and as much as I tried not to, I know that my intense rage and splitting was emotional abuse at its peak. I feel horrible about it. I can't forgive me, and I know that they can't forget and are still probably dealing with the effects of me to this day.
I hate myself for hurting the women I loved so dearly. I just hope realising I am inherently abusive is a step in the right direction. I've even had to reject several would-be romantic relationships in the past MONTH - yes, MONTH (no idea what people see in me) - because I liked them too much to want to even give hint at a chance of abuse. I feel good about my choice but at the same time it makes me scared I'll never find a relationship where I don't abuse the person I'm in it with.
I feel horrible, just to restate that. I hope one day I can move past it, but the guilt is unbearable right now. It's all I think about constantly.