Said something prejudiced and mean to a nice person

A few years ago, I dated this woman for a while. Actually it was more like a "friends with benefits" type of thing. (That's the way she wanted it, so that's all she was available for) Anyway, one day when I called her, AFTER I thought the call was terminated, I said something prejudiced and ignorant. I didn't mean it to or about her, (was thinking out loud). I sent her a hand written apology, but it was the end of anything between her and I. I still feel regret almost daily that I hurt the feelings of this woman who was such a nice person. I know it was more incompetence on my part than meanness, but I shouldn't have said it out loud. I realize this is not as serious as some of the things on this forum, but it robs me of my peace of mind. Sometimes keeps me awake at night.

As you say yourself, it's a very, very small thing in comparison to some of the other issues on this forum - though I know that sometimes one's own small acts of thoughtlessness can linger in the mind. You can't stay friends with everyone and I am sure the woman in question has long gotten over the offence. What you did was no crime and it was not meant in bad faith. All these things considered, you can put it behind you, hopefully with a smile on your face!

Sprock, thank you for the thoughtful response. It's been eating at me because not only did I hurt someone who didn't deserve it, but I lost the affections of a woman I really liked. And it's always been hard for me to meet new girls.