by epiphany55 » Tue Oct 20, 2015 1:02 am
Yes I still do feel like this sometimes. More mind games.
This is just another irrational side-effect of remorse, a distortion from our life-long obsession with punishment and reward (entitlement). The truth is, by withholding pleasure on the grounds of self punishment or some abstract concept of being "undeserved", nothing changes. Nothing gets better or worse in the world. It is a futile gesture that nobody can appreciate.
The faulty reasoning behind withholding pleasure is that you are somehow making up for your past wrongs simply by feeling bad. But of course, there is no link between your pleasure (or lack thereof) and any tangible amends you could make. You making yourself feel bad is ultimately a form of self indulgence in itself. It can only be experienced subjectively.
What are the rational outcomes of remorse? At the least, that you put right the wrong you caused or, where that isn't possible, create more good than you would have without the remorse. Whether or not you enjoy life in the process has absolutely no bearing on that.
Self punishment is futile. Pleasure at no expense to anyone is neutral and creates a zero deficit.
I know where you're coming from, but it's just another game your mind plays, perhaps in an overcompensatory attempt to preserve resources, because if you can convince yourself that withholding pleasure and feeling bad is enough of an amendment, you don't actually need to spend time and energy making a real difference in the world.
Don't fall for it.