(MOD EDIT: TRIGGER WARNING FOR DESCRIPTIONS OF SELF-HARM)
I made an account just to ask this, mainly because i don't want to bother people at my other forum with it. Let's see if I can explain this coherently.
I have recurring thoughts of self-harm and of generally "deserving" to be hurt. This has been happening since I was fairly young, elementary school maybe. I rarely act on them, and when I do the results are pathetic compared to real self-harm. I'm slammed my head with doors and whipped my limbs with belts. My earliest memory of acting on such an impulse was scratching my arms as hard as I could (which wasn't even enough to draw blood or anything like that). I was maybe 9 or 10, and did it right there, under my desk in the classroom. I don't even remember what triggered me, but I do remember other kids asking what happened to my arms.
One of my biggest triggers is other peoples' suffering. Reading accounts of assault, abuse, neglect, torture, bullying - there's something in me that makes me want...to experience it, I guess. Something that thinks "That should be me. I deserve that." No reason, nothing I did, I just deserve it. I should suffer, horribly. Real suffering, like what these people went through. I have no real problems and that's bad.
The other major trigger is simply fugues of self-hate and self-directed rage. Here it makes a little more sense, I think. My mind floods with fury at myself, torrents of negativity. Somewhere in there, the urge to hurt myself crops up. This I guess is a little more "normal". Yet it doesn't explain the desire to be hurt. As in, by someone else. In my worst moments (for both triggers), I've seriously considered getting some money, and hiring someone to hurt me. Why? To feel pain that comes from something external, to assuage my guilt about not suffering anything real, to justify what negative feelings I do have.
I've finally started scouring the internet for information after an "attack" of these kinds of feelings yesterday, the worst I'd had in a long time. This was the latter type of trigger, self-hate and anger. I'm sitting there in the library, ruminating about how awful, unhealthy, ugly my body is, mentally screaming and berating myself for being so disgusting and horrible. Then the urge for harm started. I came up with three main options: claw at my throat, strangle myself somehow, or go into the bathroom and smash my head against a wall. I did nothing of any kind, but breathe deeply and try to calm down and distract myself. But that's the worst urge I've had in a while now.
I keep wondering what on earth this is, seeing as most of the time it's a completely non-sexual desire for others to hurt me, rather than typical self-harm. Feelings of guilt and deserving pain. Thoughts that frighten me with how intense they are. Yet they aren't constant. It comes and goes in waves. Sometimes I go months without any intrusive thoughts, then it will hit and last a day or two.
What is this, is what I'm asking. Or is it nothing to worry about?
I can elaborate on anything as needed, and I apologize if this is in the wrong subforum. Given that irrational guilt and remorse are major triggers, I figured I could put it here.