Hi,
A few months ago I had a sexual encounter. I've never really thought about it but now I feel guilt.
Myself and a friend were kissing at a party, we went to her bedroom. She said she didn't want to have full on sex because she wasn't on the pill and I said ok. She said we could do other things. She started to go down on me but as I drank too much (she wasn't drinking) I couldn't get it up.
After a while I said, "this isn't working do you want me to go down on you". She didn't say anything but I thought she looked a bit guilty so I said "it's ok, I don't mind, I'll do it". I went down on her and she seemed to really enjoy it. I also wanted to do it because I din't want to be selfish and wanted to make her feel good. She was guiding my head and hand along with providing instructions.
Afterwards, she felt my crotch area but I said no and we cuddled and chatted until we fell asleep.
The next few weeks, I saw her a few times and it was normal, we joked about it a bit.
However, after reading about affirmative consent, I'm starting to feel guilty that I didn't talk to her more before I went down on her. Although I thought she was feeling guilty, maybe she didn't want me to do it but didn't want to say no. Her body language indicated she was happy but now I'm wondering if I misinterpreted it and she just went along with it.