did i abuse my cousin when i was younger

hi i'm a teen girl and when i was about 11 my cousin was 8 and we would do things like kiss and other things and she consented but one time i asked her to 'lick down there' i remember her asking if she
'had too' i don't remember what i said to her then but she did and we stopped i feel so guilty about this i think about it alot i regret it so much i don't know what to do

misfit killjoy10 wrote:hi i'm a teen girl and when i was about 11 my cousin was 8 and we would do things like kiss and other things and she consented but one time i asked her to 'lick down there' i remember her asking if she
'had too' i don't remember what i said to her then but she did and we stopped i feel so guilty about this i think about it alot i regret it so much i don't know what to do

Hello Friend,

Relax.Do not bear guilt over this, this seems like nothing more then simple child experimentation and not molestation in the slightest. You were both children that didn't know any better. Obviously, your actions were inappropriate, but you do not deserve to feel guilty about this.

Please, feel better .

Although, I just want to add, is your cousin doing okay? No noticeable concerning behavior?

Zonofo wrote:

misfit killjoy10 wrote:hi i'm a teen girl and when i was about 11 my cousin was 8 and we would do things like kiss and other things and she consented but one time i asked her to 'lick down there' i remember her asking if she
'had too' i don't remember what i said to her then but she did and we stopped i feel so guilty about this i think about it alot i regret it so much i don't know what to do

Hello Friend,

Relax.Do not bear guilt over this, this seems like nothing more then simple child experimentation and not molestation in the slightest. You were both children that didn't know any better. Obviously, your actions were inappropriate, but you do not deserve to feel guilty about this.

Please, feel better .

Although, I just want to add, is your cousin doing okay? No noticeable concerning behavior?

thankyou i guess i just need to learn to move on since i've matured...i see her pretty regularly we still talk and she doesn't seem bothered by it she seems normal one time she told me that her moms ex boyfriend touched her though i told her she could talk to me about it if she felt like it but she didn't want to so i didn't ask her anymore but other then that i don't think anything is concerning

Kids do things with other kids. Unless there was a continued, repeated, forced, activity the other party clearly did not want to participate in, or one was old enough to know better, it's just kids fooling around, IMO. That's why certain tests, as in some sexuality tests, purposely instruct you to disregard any experiences before and thru puberty. Cause kids experiment, & they get each other to doing things, etc. without malice. Your cousin thinks nothing of it, so it was nothing.

ts good that you realize you were a kid back then, and that your actions were wrong, but were not evil. Its good that you are willing to move on and forgive yourself, and realize the situation was not that severe. Make it so you live your life to the best of your ability so these small events do not reign in your mind.

Best of luck in the future!

You were very young and it was experimentation not abuse. Go in peace.