Greetings. First off, I love this forum! I've been browsing here for the past few years on and off and it's helped me a lot but I haven't registered because of privacy concerns until now because I'm desperate.
If you all seem overwhelmed by the wall of text, I apologize in advance but I don't know how to word what I wish to ask without seeming long winded.
I'm a 24 year old male who struggles with bipolar and I'm reeling from a past with a highly abusive (both emotionally and physically) narcissistic mother. I've never been shown any genuine love or affection; I don't even know or understand the feeling of love.
My mother was an controlling person who was responsible for damaging many people's lives. She was a compulsive liar and only cared about herself. In fact, the only reason why I'm alive today is because of her selfishness. She would lure wealthy Arabic men in (who weren't allowed to have relations with American woman due to cultural reasons) and have sex with them to gain money in exchange for her silence knowing they could be disowned if she told them.
While growing up, she distanced me from the rest of the family because she felt threatened by them knowing they knew the type of person she is. She wouldn't let me go outside and play and controlled every aspect of my life. When I didn't bend to her will, she would do anything from beat me to using the mental health system against me. I never had much of a childhood because of her and I lived most of my life in constant fear of her until she passed away 4 years ago.
Now a combination of untreated bipolar and trauma is preventing me from living a normal life. I live with a relative who helps provide for me but is insisting that I try to get my own place soon because he's heavily into dating and we live in a small house. I struggle to hold a regular job for any more than a couple of months at a time. I've tried well over 24 different medications for my bipolar as well as tried to find a therapist over the course of the past several years. I live in one of the worst states for getting any type of mental health. All the places where I've tried to turn to either had a really long waiting time, therapists didn't help me right, or are too expensive and the psychiatrists here are much worse and after all that I've been through, I don't have the will to even try anymore.
To make matters worse, I lack certain life skills and social skills that most people my age have and as shameful that it is to admit, I don't even know how to drive because of being denied the chance to go to driver's ed when I was in high school thanks to my mother and I'm too ashamed and broke to go now (it costs $300+ where I live)
I don't have a lot of friends and have only been in one relationship in my entire pathetic excuse of a lifespan which ended horribly in 3 months because I was too darn afraid to open up to her so I tried to take the easy way out by lying and manipulating her and threatening and intimidating her when she tried to dump me.
Rather than even try to live a decent life anymore I take shortcuts by running shady internet schemes and hurting/manipulating others to get ahead in life. I have no real direction anymore; all I want is to be like everyone else and have a house and a car but thanks to my upbringing and my weakness, I feel like I have to hurt others despite not wanting to just to get any form of happiness out of my life.
When I'm not being a horrible person, I'm spending 14+ hours a day on average playing online video games both as an escape from my suffering and as a way to make myself feel superior by greifing players who aren't as good as me and trolling people for the fun of it.
I do feel some degree of remorse for those that I hurt. In fact, my treatment of my ex and the fact that I manipulated a childhood friend (one of the few friends that I ever had) for thousands of dollars by making myself out to be this super tech genius who wanted to run a business and needed startup funds still eat me up inside.
I want to stop and I want to be a good person. I just don't know how anymore and I'm making this post in order to see if there is a such thing as good people who would show somebody like me some degree of compassion and want to help me.
Any advice I can get is welcome and appreciated. Again, I want to change. Thanks in advance.