Only sexual experiences have been with prostitutes

sprock wrote:I'm sad/angry to think you have to live with any stigma at all. It's ridiculous. As long as the customer isn't coercive and the woman (or man) is engaged in sex work through free choice as is over 18 then there really shouldn't be a problem. Society has daft priorities.

Yeah, I agree.

truth2bscene+ wrote:I've been an escort for 20+/- years. You have no idea how many young men accessed my services to launch their sex life. I believe their shame was more about lacking any sexual experience and the fear of what a first partner may think of this fact. I always respect my younger, transgressive oriented clients for seeking out the services of an experienced woman, presumably to jumpstart their sexual prowess/confidence and identity.

Simultaneously, I live the stigma of being a prostitute. My clients cannot begin to understand the isolating effect it has had on my late 20's ++ adult life. This is my choice to bear the weight of, nothing you should carry. Unless you are looking to impress and court a daughter from the TV reality show, "19 Kids and Counting" I would think you are gonna find more success w/ "quality" women by adhering to the Truth. Saying you are a virgin is probably going to freak women out as opposed to having a "normative" repertoire consisting of at least 5 ladies (bonus is their experience becomes yours when you accept it as a gift). You are part of the status quo. Isn't this what you want?

Yeah I totally agree, it sucks that such a stigma exists against this sort of thing, if you are not hurting anyone other people have no reason to judge you. I really don't look at any of those escorts as bad people or anything like that. The main reasons for my guilt are because of the social stigma and the fact that I feel like a loser for having to pay for sex. Also the fact that a few of those escorts were actually very unattractive to me. The fact that I pretty much had no standards and acted on a fleeting sexual fantasy makes me feel ashamed.

However, i have to disagree about the truth thing. As far as I know, most women would want nothing to do with a guy if they found out he visited an escort. In fact, I think a man who visits escorts is even more stigmatized than the escorts themselves. Many people actually see the escort as the victim, whereas the guy who visits them is looked at as exploiting and abusing them. I will certainly not be telling anyone that I ever visited an escort. I wish I could erase my memory so that I actually forgot it ever happened and genuinely still think I'm a virgin.