Promise

Hey, I have read a few forums from this site, and now it feels that I seek your answers/thoughts.

It may seem a trivial matter, though, at the moment it still at the back of my mind. It, happened during a time before my end of college. It is where my parent brought up a close friend of mine, and to me, being judgmental again, and I know her well, and hearing certain comments, saddened me. Mother, came up to check on me, in my room, I was still sad and...I had the urge to tell a part of my friends past, I was reluctant too say, until mum mentioned about people having not great families, and they have been hurt. I said "I know", so she asked me "Do you?" As it came this far, I told that my friend she was abused, at a very young age, as well as one of her brothers.

She became shocked (Mum also works with kids, so, that got to her), and even told me to say to her about, her giving my friend support. Though, the next day after I told her (Step-dad knows now too, cause she mentioned) she said, don't say, because its her dealing. With me agreeing, I assumed that to not say, to prevent causing unnecessary problems, also avoiding triggering her flashbacks, as I have said to myself, won't help her.

However realizing that I told someone, and it was a promise. So, I have felt that it is now broken, for the sake of knowledge and understanding. My friend has told others, she has opened up to family also, this was before I told my mum. I know, I can't un-say things, and that...honesty is pushing me into telling my friend that my parents know (Only-my parents...hopefully)

Though I'm risking in causing her flashbacks which, I really do not want her to have, especially that its in her past and, shes happy at the present. Though, theirs still that urge in letting her know, that I had, let the "Guarantee" down. I'll be seeing her soon also, along with others, so my mind conclusively has said, just to still be a caring friend for her and be there, as best I can. If she does ask, that I mentioned anything about her past, then I will be honest with her, lies will only make it worse, and I do not wish to lie.

Would help if you could give your opinions on what, if I should tell her or not...whats best?
Thank you.

I think that you said something trying to be helpful. If I was you I would be honest if she asks and say that you were trying to help. I would not volunteer the information personally but if asked I would tell the truth. Hopefully your parents have kept it to themselves. I dont think you did this maliciously so I would try not to beat yourself up over it

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Thank you for your input, helps

No, I didn't intend it to be malicious. I do not lightly, even very seldom to speak of things which have been confided in to me. It was an emotional moment and shocked me, when I told.

Yes, I agree with you.

(She has had help, by others including me, and has became more confident which makes me proud of her )

She sounds like she is doing well

I guess see what transpires but if directly questionned I do believe honesty is the best policy

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Yes, indeed

We both have helped each other many times.

And I think that could be a new quote in my journal

Anyhow, thanking you again

You are welcome

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