Sister

Hi everyone

When I was 14 (I'm 16 now) I touched my sister a few times, she was 5 at that time, so 7 now. At that time I went to a new school and had almost no friends. I always wanted to have a girlfriend and was really curious.
Sometimes when she was playing on my iPhone, I used to touch her a bit, just with my finger. And once or twice id put my penis between her but just to get that 'feeling'. I was really curious. This lasted for like 10 seconds, not longer. I also let her feel it 1-2 times. I stopped doing these thing because I knew it was wrong and it sometimes hurt her when I touched it. I never went 'in' her or licked her.

After that it only happened once again. She doesn't seem to remember anything of it. She's a really sweet girl and I love her very much. I still don't know why I did this. I've never told this to anyone and I feel really guilty about all this. I know I will never do this again and no I never did this to other girls.

I don't want to tell my parents because I I know how mad they will be and I don't want to move out already. It only happened a few times.

What should I do?..

You should go get help because u could do this again. It's good u feel remorse.

I think that the most important thing here is how your sister has processed this and how she has been affected. I think that it is important she is offered the opportunity for help should this be needed and that the best way to get this is by telling your parents. As I said to someone else- this does not make you a horrible person but the most important thing is her welfare and her being offered help should she need it.

Cracked

I do want to tell my parents but I'm really scared. I think they'll hate me and I'm scared to lose my whole family and I love them really much. What if they kick me out of the house?

Jake47532 wrote:I do want to tell my parents but I'm really scared. I think they'll hate me and I'm scared to lose my whole family and I love them really much. What if they kick me out of the house?

Hopefully your family will want to remedy this and realise it is complex and not kick you out, rather understand your side of things too. I do understand it is difficult but I am concerned about your sister and think that she will likely need some help.

Cracked

CrackedGirl wrote:

Jake47532 wrote:I do want to tell my parents but I'm really scared. I think they'll hate me and I'm scared to lose my whole family and I love them really much. What if they kick me out of the house?

Hopefully your family will want to remedy this and realise it is complex and not kick you out, rather understand your side of things too. I do understand it is difficult but I am concerned about your sister and think that she will likely need some help.

Cracked

How do I tell my mom about this? I'm so scared and I don't want them to call the police. I don't care if she'll send me to a therapist I just don't want to lose my family. I love them and me and my sister have a lot of fun together and I don't want to lose her. How should I talk to my mom without her getting angry?

Thanks

The fact of the matter is, they probably will be angry. None of us have a magic wand or jedi mind trick that we can offer you that will make this easy. It will be hard. But if you love your sister and you love your parents, it is the right thing to do. Yes they will be angry, but if they love you and your sister, they will get both you and your sister the help you both need, and still love you both. If you are worried that they will be extremely angry and will do something bad, my recommendation is that you tell them that you need to tell them something, but you don't think you can do it without help and they you think you need family counseling, that way you do it in front of a therapist. It is probably wise that a therapist get involved for the sake of your sister anyway, but without knowing how your family feels about it, I don't know how they will react to this request. If you don't feel they will go for this, let us know and we can offer some other adivce.

seekingclarity2day wrote:The fact of the matter is, they probably will be angry. None of us have a magic wand or jedi mind trick that we can offer you that will make this easy. It will be hard. But if you love your sister and you love your parents, it is the right thing to do. Yes they will be angry, but if they love you and your sister, they will get both you and your sister the help you both need, and still love you both. If you are worried that they will be extremely angry and will do something bad, my recommendation is that you tell them that you need to tell them something, but you don't think you can do it without help and they you think you need family counseling, that way you do it in front of a therapist. It is probably wise that a therapist get involved for the sake of your sister anyway, but without knowing how your family feels about it, I don't know how they will react to this request. If you don't feel they will go for this, let us know and we can offer some other adivce.

I thought about telling my brother first, he'll be mad at first but i think he will help me telling my parents. I know they will be mad but I hope I can stay with them.

-- Mon Jan 06, 2014 2:45 pm --

I haven't told my parents yet. It's really hard and I don't know how to start. Does anyone know how I could tell them..?