I think i molested my brother, Feeling suicidal

I’d say it’s normal to feel bad sometimes and have some level of guilt over this. It’s the extreme and suicidal-level guilt that’s the problem of course. I’m not sure what telling your brother would accomplish. It would probably make him feel gross, weird being around you, and generally have a negative impact on your relationship. I suppose you could make a pros and cons list, like with any decision. It’s something you could talk about in therapy at any rate, along with your fear of getting shot/hurt if others found out. I’m glad therapy is helpful and hopefully, with time, you can put things in perspective and move on, and like you say, be the best brother you can be going forward.

Best wishes to you and your brother,
Jan

I need you alive in order to help pay for my wife's Medicare and Social Security and provide a source of income for all your teachers and therapists who help pay my wife's Medicare and Social Security so please stay alive to help us whatever personal flaws you may see in yourself. You don't have any idea how valuable your life is to all of us even those of us who don't personally know you.
Nobody's perfect. You haven't killed anybody yet which is the only capital crime after all. If you
haven't killed anybody it wouldn't really be just for you to die. The worst thing that you seem to
have done to anybody is socially inappropriate touching which would be embarrassing to the
person involved but that's what Michael Jackson was accused of and probably would have avoided
in retrospect but was quickly forgiven and remains loved by millions who were greatly saddened
by his loss. If somebody did the same thing to you as you did to somebody else would you want them to kill themselves over it? Don't judge yourself harsher than you judge others. You may
possibly have some sort of chemical imbalance in your brain making you feel upset about it to
a dysfunctional degree you should get a therapist to check for you. Remorse is rational if it's
encouraging you to do something to help fix problems you caused or something generally beneficial to people but if it's making you self-destructive it's like wanting to wreck a perfectly good car just because you wish you'd gotten the highest priced limo in Beverly Hills instead. It's wasteful. Do whatever good you can with what you have. If everybody did that, it would be a wonderful world
and the good you do might turn out to be a lot more important than you currently expect it to be,

-- Tue Apr 23, 2013 9:25 pm --

There is a wonderful book you ought to read called "The Psychopathology of Life in a Nazi Death Camp" by a Viennese Psychiatrist who survived being an inmate in Auschwitz which was one of the most depressing places in human history, a place where he was unwilling to wake up a fellow inmate who was having a nightmare because he realized there could not be any nightmare worse than waking up a prisoner in Auschwitz. There is a part of this narrative of his personal experiences where he was asked to give a lecture to his fellow inmates on why they shouldn't commit suicide. The fact that he was successful in persuading people not to commit suicide in Auschwitz and was able to survive himself is a good reason to listen to the arguments in his lecture which is included in the book you should be able to find at most public libraries. I highly recommend it.

Don't worry about what happened Ashamed Guy. If your brother doesn't remember then try to calm down a bit. Ending your life won't solve the problem. Your life is valuable to so many people. What you did in the past was wrong yes but you know that and have stopped and that's what really matters.

Hope you have a great life with your family and can move on.
Beth
p.s. and go for that girl don't let what happened in the past stop you from living a great life.

A fair reply, although in future reference, I don't generally think it is worth reviving a thread that it older than two years, unless it has a specific personal meaning which you want to discuss

Cheers,
Sprock