Venting about PD stalker.

I haven't posted for sometime and I need to vent. My stalker (a former mistress) has finally reached the violent stage and either her or her loser boyfriend have tampered with my truck. How dumb can someone be to put not only myself and my family in harms way but innocent people traveling down the road? I infomred the police and gave them the statement from the repair shop that said there is evidence that my vehicle was tampered with. The police cant do anything to them because its my word against theirs! The police called them and told them there was a report filed on them and ever since I spoke to the police I STILL am being watched although not as frequenly as before(still at least 5 days a week). Ive spent alot of time and money on attorneys and I havent gotten anywhere. What kind of people do this $#%^??

You're still in the same position after all this time? I was thinking of you recently, and wondered how things were for you. I was hoping that the stalking had stopped.

It seems that this has gone on for long enough and you've tried all avenues to get it stopped, going down the legal channels and the police are still doing nothing. Perhaps it's time to collect all the evidence that you have and make an official complaint to the Chief of Police, perhaps even speaking to the politician in your area, and demanding that something be done. How much longer does this need to go on? This is getting more and more dangerous for you, and tampering with your vehicle is a serious crime. If you're not being heard, and you have the evidence to hand, then you'll need to go above the heads of the police and launch an official complaint. Keep us posted.

masquerade wrote:You're still in the same position after all this time? I was thinking of you recently, and wondered how things were for you. I was hoping that the stalking had stopped.

It seems that this has gone on for long enough and you've tried all avenues to get it stopped, going down the legal channels and the police are still doing nothing. Perhaps it's time to collect all the evidence that you have and make an official complaint to the Chief of Police, perhaps even speaking to the politician in your area, and demanding that something be done. How much longer does this need to go on? This is getting more and more dangerous for you, and tampering with your vehicle is a serious crime. If you're not being heard, and you have the evidence to hand, then you'll need to go above the heads of the police and launch an official complaint. Keep us posted.

The only evidence I really have against them is my calender with dates times ect. I have some witnesses too. A couple of videos from my employees of her bf coming to intimidate me. The thing is that I am a man and when it comes to stuff like this it is not taken seriously. In fact when ever I have spoken to an officer and made a report I feel as if they are looking at me like "you gotta be kidding me". A detective even went as far as to say I should be flattered. If the shoe was on the other foot I would have been locked up a long time ago. She is using the fact that she is a woman to her advantage and she can come to tears on call if she has to. I avoid these people as much as I can. Im ok with the watching at this point. Its the fear of being killed or physically harmed when I least expect it is what Im worried about.

Freaked wrote :Yes the police and my lawyer think its justified. Im gonna be out of here by the end of the summer

Hmmmmmm ?The last thing I heard is: you didn't put a restraining order on your ex, because you were moving by the end of the summer. Also that the police and your lawyer thought a restraining order was justified.

So now what? Honestly...what's the truth?

OK

oksayhi212 wrote:

Freaked wrote :Yes the police and my lawyer think its justified. Im gonna be out of here by the end of the summer

Hmmmmmm ?The last thing I heard is: you didn't put a restraining order on your ex, because you were moving by the end of the summer. Also that the police and your lawyer thought a restraining order was justified.

So now what? Honestly...what's the truth?

OK

I am working on a business transaction and I thought I would be gone by now but because the person I am dealing with is a jackass im still stuck where Im at till we resolve our issues FYI. I can also explain to you how a restraining order works. There are two types in the state im in. A general order of protection that says a person cannot confront you or they will be arrested, and a stalking order of protection meaning that a person cannot sit there and watch you follow you ect (basic definitions but you should get the gist of it). Now you can get these on your own or with a lawyer but there are some things you have to be afriad of. First if the person you are dealing with is a nut job getting an order of protection might set them off and really cause some harm (boom your dead). Second they might go to court and fight it (there goes your cash and who knows what else). Third if the person is looking to get your attention now they know they have it (they win). This is how it was explained to me. So an order of protection really means jack if your not dealing with a normal rational person. Since you are paying attention to my story does this person I am dealing with sound as if she is a normal rational person or that she has some problem? Last I spoke to my lawyer and he said just keep reporting whats happening to the police and they will put the order on them and it will hold up in court better than one I ask for. Im in it to win it and the person I am dealing with is a pathological liar. She can spin a lie like a black widow spins a web and I set myself free and am not getting back in. As for the stalking it has slowed down to a trickle and I can deal with that. Its the tampering of my truck I cant deal with. Im making some life adjustments and I will catch them and when that happens we are gonna go for attempted murder. Then they will all have some time to think.

Freaked,

I was in a similiar situation to you, and had my ex charged with harrassment. She has a peace bond/restraining order on her. She did fight it but lost. She stopped and haven't heard from her since. I too risked what your lawyer said, but it worked out in the end. It was worth the risk.

Anyway, I don't see what you have to lose at this point, as they just keep harrassing you anyway. As you stated before the police and your lawyer said your case would be justified. As you have stated, you have plenty of witnessess. At least if you get an order, you would have a better case for more severe action, if they break the order. IE Criminal charges and possible jail time, and the police would have to take your issues more seriously.

Anyway..your choice. As I said, what other choice do you have, as they won't just stop on thier own? You have nothing to lose at this point, only to possibly gain.

OK

oksayhi212 wrote:Freaked,

I was in a similiar situation to you, and had my ex charged with harrassment. She has a peace bond/restraining order on her. She did fight it but lost. She stopped and haven't heard from her since. I too risked what your lawyer said, but it worked out in the end. It was worth the risk.

Anyway, I don't see what you have to lose at this point, as they just keep harrassing you anyway. As you stated before the police and your lawyer said your case would be justified. As you have stated, you have plenty of witnessess. At least if you get an order, you would have a better case for more severe action, if they break the order. IE Criminal charges and possible jail time, and the police would have to take your issues more seriously.

Anyway..your choice. As I said, what other choice do you have, as they won't just stop on thier own? You have nothing to lose at this point, only to possibly gain.

OK

I totally understand your point and I appreciate your input. The thing is she has done more than the stalking is whats making me worried. Lets just put it this way I had to go see my mechanic again yesterday and he had a look of disbelief when he was repairing my car........this was on the way back from dropping off one of my kids. So now I am a little frustrated about that. I dont like to give a lot of details of whats been happening........but I will be calling hollywood pretty soon I think this would make a great movie LOL. When that happens you will understand what im going through completely. Over the summer I made some new friends and I had a few drinks one night and told them the story.......they thought I was making it up LOL. I can laugh at some of it now because its been going on for so long and its rediculous. They have tried everything they can to make me miserable and I have been ignoring them. I think Im winning the battle without the order of protection. I hope I dont get killed in the process.

Sorry Freaked,

But it doesn't sound like your winning. Anyway, my only other suggestion, is you shouldn't be spreading your story and talking badly about your ex, to anyone who will listen. Sooner or later it will get back to your ex, and her new boyfriend, that you are trash talking them. This will further antagonize them, and only make things worse for you. It will also, make your case much harder to justify, as any contact by you, whether directly or indirectly, will only hurt your case. They could just say or prove, you are trash talking them and only brought all this on yourself.

The mere fact you can laugh and joke about your situation, suggest you may not be overly worried that you are in danger or not overly stressed by your situation? Part of proving a harrassment case and for authorities to take you seriously, is proving emotional and/or physical stress. You don't appear stressed to me, according to what you wrote above, only entertianed by it? I am sure the authorities pick up on that too?

Anyway...Good luck to you.

OK

oksayhi212 wrote:Sorry Freaked,

But it doesn't sound like your winning. Anyway, my only other suggestion, is you shouldn't be spreading your story and talking badly about your ex, to anyone who will listen. Sooner or later it will get back to your ex, and her new boyfriend, that you are trash talking them. This will further antagonize them, and only make things worse for you. It will also, make your case much harder to justify, as any contact by you, whether directly or indirectly, will only hurt your case. They could just say or prove, you are trash talking them and only brought all this on yourself.

The mere fact you can laugh and joke about your situation, suggest you may not be overly worried that you are in danger or not overly stressed by your situation? Part of proving a harrassment case and for authorities to take you seriously, is proving emotional and/or physical stress. You don't appear stressed to me, according to what you wrote above, only entertianed by it? I am sure the authorities pick up on that too?

Anyway...Good luck to you.

OK

Trust me Im stressed out that Im in danger......I just find it amusing to what length someone will go to mess with somebody after all this time. Im not sure who's doing it but I think its her scumb bag boyfriend doing it, and the fact that SHE IS STILL WITH HIM is what I find the most comical. Because anyone as moronic as that is a keeper.

I think in this case you're probably expressing wry irony rather than actual humour.

As you have gone through every avenue here and are at a loss as to what to do in this situation, maybe a solution, as drastic as it is, would be to move? This isn't something that can be practically done overnight, and it's very drastic, and perhaps I am clutching at straws for suggesting it, but you've come to a point now where you are emotionally affected by it, the police don't seem to be helping and you are afraid for your own safety. Such a drastic move would have a lot of potential practical considerations to take into account, such as how you would continue to see your friends and relatives without her seeing you and following you, what you would do if she found out where you had moved to, the disruption and cost of a move, how you would find a new property etc etc but it could be seen as a potential solution to aim for as a last and very final resort. I really don't know what else to suggest.