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Would you stay with someone who may not recover from anxiety?

Yes, i'd try to make it work
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No, it would be too much for me
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Depends...
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Re: I don't know if I can take it anymore

Postby whybother » Tue Sep 04, 2012 10:44 pm

this derailed a little bit from his mental condition.


I hope you are not trying to suggest that you wanted to control which aspects of this thread people decided to comment upon. After all it was you who started this thread in (of all the other choices) the relationships forum

I'm majoring in Psychology and I wish to become a Clinical Psychologist one day.


So what are your fellow students saying about this boy? I would ask why you are not listening to them, but I know that regardless of the pressure put upon a flower bud it will not open until it is ready. Making my asking pointless. Your trying to find justifications for your point of view.

I see him as my sort-of first patient,...............
I don't know if he would be the person i'd want to be with the rest of my life.


Enthusium is one thing worthy of applause, but which came first the boyfriend or the patient? And have you heard anyone muttering about the dangers of getting emotionally involved with patients, recently ?

By the way what happens if your soulmate crosses your path between now and when you plan to move back to your family? Are you willing to gamble the soulmate will wait until February so your current can be comfortable ?
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Re: I don't know if I can take it anymore

Postby Radeona » Wed Sep 05, 2012 12:07 am

I meant to say that my posts derailed from the point of him having an anxiety condition.

I just started my first classes, so I don't have any student/friends to get advice on from a psychological point.

That's a good point, which came first? I feel that love came first. After I got to know him and realize he had problems, I wanted to help him get through his issues. I couldn't describe it very well, so I used the term 'first patient' as an example. It is true though, I did at some point think to myself, if I could try to help him overcome his issues, I could use that experience for the future. And you're also correct about the relationship issue - seeing your clients. Because i'm in this relationship, i've now become part of the problem.
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Re: I don't know if I can take it anymore

Postby Radeona » Wed Sep 05, 2012 4:32 pm

Last night he saw a website that I had up about the 'Stages of Grief in a Relationship' that I left on by accident. This began an interesting conversation.

He was hurt, confused, upset and wanted me to make a decision. He felt like he's been treated miserably over the past month or two, and he's right - i've been distant from him because I feared we would break up. We haven't cuddled much, haven't done many things together, and he's felt like there's no love for him anymore.

My mind went blank. He wanted me to choose him or to let go and tell him it wont work. He said he will try to make things work and he has love for me on his side... I still love him. I want to see if there's a chance for us. I told him we can try again. He agreed that we can move to Wisconsin by early next year, and that I can go to school and possibly graduate with my bachelor's degree before we move out of the country. He still wants to go, and I did tell him that I don't feel the same about the country as he does. He still made it my decision.

Was it the right one? How do I feel? I feel that I care about him and we claim to love each other, and i'm not one to give up easily. Will he love the same music I will? No. Will he change his mind about moving out of the country? Will I change my mind? Maybe not. Will I be happy? I don't know. I don't know with either decision of staying or going. All I know is now, we're both willing to try harder, and we both made promises we intend to keep and work on.

If I hold up my end and he fails on his... then I think I know where I will be. We'll see by the end of this year.
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