I don't know what to do

Hi...I don't really talk to my friends about these kinds of things so I figured I'd give an online forum a try.

I'm 25...and I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 years now (in Sept. will be 3). Her family loves me, we never fight, and have somewhat discussed marriage.

A month or so I met up with a girl I last dated about 4 years ago as she had been pushing to catch up with me...we just met at a bar, had a few drinks, and talked. The thing is, I had first dated her when I was in high school as a senior, and she was a freshman...her parents would not let her date me because they said I was too old and we had to sneak around whenever we hung out. We were very much in love. We dated on and off as I went to college and she was still in HS....each time sneaking around because her parents are insane...and every time we broke up it was because of them. After not dating for a while, we got back together when she went to college and dated for a few months when she was a freshman in college and I a senior. We were 6 hours apart and eventually she broke it off because of the distance and the fact that she would be in college 3 more years while I was graduated...we were both still in love with each other and had been since high school...it was love I never felt for someone else.

So since then, she's had a few boyfriends come and go, and, haven given up on the other girl, had been dating my current girlfriend. I had never stopped loving her and seeing her again made all these feelings come back...and the other night I had been drinking and it just so happened she was online the same time as me...and told me that she had feelings for me still. (btw shes 22 now, I'm 25)

I don't know what to do, I have been dating my current gf for basically 3 years and I'll feel like the worst person ever if I break up with her, I still do love her and care for her. But this other girl I've loved since HS and it's a different love I don't think I could ever feel for anyone else ever. I thought for sure she was the girl I'd marry since HS and I know for sure we would get married if I broke it off w my current gf. I know I would be happier with the old gf and I would never stop thinking about her if I stay with my current gf...but I don't know if I can get myself to do that to her.

Thanks for reading.

If the only reason you're staying with your current girlfriend is because you don't want to hurt her, then you need to ask yourself if you really love her, or not. Inevitably, for as long as you remain in contact with your former girlfriend, and have feelings for her, you will hurt eventually hurt your girlfriend anyway, and the longer you prolong it, the more hurt she will be. It's never easy to break off a relationship, but by staying in the relationship whilst you're in a state of confusion you're not being fair to her. Please do a lot of soul searching, and ask yourself what your true feelings are. If you decide that your feelings for your old girlfriend are stronger, it would be kinder to do the decent thing and end your current relationship as soon as possible. By staying with her you'd only be postponing the inevitable.