Divorced Parents and Children

HI, i'm having trouble with my dad. 10 years ago, my parents get a divorce and each of them remarried with other people. Currently i'm living with my dad and from my long observation i figured out that my dad is treating me unfair in many ways compared to my step family. For an example, he's willing to support his brother in law in studies and living costs. Instead for me, my dad encourages me get a part time job to pay for my living costs and my car. Another thing is, my dad never bring me to any vacation and my dad only bring my step family with all the expenses is fully supported by my dad. He always shared his financial problems with me and when it comes to the step family, all that my dad give to them is just money and happiness! This is so not fair. I'm sick of this and i really need help in advice and what to do. My dad is 47 years old, married to a 35 years old lady and have two daughters, and i'm 22 years old this year, i hope this could help.

Would you be able to sit your Dad down when the two of you are alone and talk to him, honestly and calmly, telling him how much you love him, and how hurt you feel about this? He may not realise just how much this is hurting you. It sounds as if you feel as if you've been pushed out and that you're feeling insecure anyway by the divorce of your parents. Even as adults we value stability from our parents, and we have a need to feel that we're here and that we're validated.

He does have a point about you contributing towards your keep.

You must talk to your dad straight forwardly about that.You must tell him that you didn't feel right when he did partiality with you.