wife bitches

I GET HOME FROM A TRIP OUT OF STATE AND MY WIFE BITCHES AND NAGGS ABOUT EVERYTHING. OUR SON, CHRISTMAS SHOPPING AND HER PARENTS. I DONT WANT TO HEAR THIS. WHEN I GET HOME I WANT PEACE IN MY HOUSE. SHE CAN GO SEE A THERAPIST IF SHE IS GOING TO BITCH. I WANT SOME FUN LIKE TO SEE HER ANSWER THE DOOR IN HIGH HEELS AND A TRENCH. WHEN IS SHE GOING TO PLAY LIKE BEFORE?

dude,try make her put herself first and you worry about your son,you do the dishes and dinner help with christmas shopping and make your just enjoy her day and do what she wants.on this day buy her flowers,get her nails done for her and treat her like a queen and i can bet one day she treat you like you want.if you treat her like she's nothing she'll feel like nothing.treat her special and she'll do the same

She probably won't play like before.

Where is your outlet after a stressing day? Do you get to talk to anyone or just have a good bitch about a bad day? Do you just bottle it up til it over takes you? don't underestimate what staying home to care for a little child can all involve! It truly is work. I'm assuming she's a stay at home mom? There really is a LOT of work involved....a lot. Or so there can be...it's what each person makes of their situation. I know in my situation.....I've been home all day w very little contact w/ other adults. When my husband walks thruogh the door...I'm EAGER to talk to an adult....and tell him all the good...and the bad. Maybe your wife doesn't see it as bitching about her day....have you ever talked w/ her about how you feel ....that you feel she jumps you at the door and all you hear....after your own long day....is more stress??? Talk together....not bitch at each other....but TALK.....let her know what you need....and find out what she needs from you. Not sure what you want from your marriage...but it's supposed to be both give and take....or take and GIVE! She needs to communicate her day to you....both bad and good....as much as you need to communicate your day to her. At some point she should be able to feel like she can get things off her chest. Don't make her feel guilty about talking to you about her day either. But let her know it would be much easier to come home and just have a chance to breathe....here again I think of what I had to learn in my own marraige!!! I chomp at the bit all day to see my husband....I was like this before I was a stay-at-home mom only then I had office talk and complaints for him instead of home and kids, etc.! Anyway....as soon as he walked through the door he was not only hit w/ me...he had both our younger daughters ...all 3 of us trying to out talk the other because ....well...we waited ALL DAY to see the man...now we all couldn't wait just 30mins. longer to talk w/ him!! He used to hint w/ sarcasim and then one day we talked. I realized...if I just give him some time to come home to some quiet and calm.....then he'd be more ready to talk to me. So now when he comes home...well kids are kids! My girls still bombard him w/ their love and attention....but that is a nice change of pace from his long work day....he relishes that! I no longer run to say "and do you know what your oldest has been up to today?" ....also by my waiting.....I'm not rushing him at the door and letting it all run out my mouth in a mad angry rant....by waiting til the kids have had their time w/ dad and just giving my husband his "calm"......when I finally do sit down to talk w/ him....I'm not so keyed up about things anymore and what I have to say comes out much easier and w/ less "bitch"!!!

Your words are so negative. YOU want peace in YOUR house. How about it would be nice to get along with your lovely wife in the house that you SHARE? She isn't your toy to play with whenever you are bored, who is supposed to keep her mouth shut and her lingerie on. If she is your wife she probably expects you to communicate with her; how can you tell her to go to a therapist, a complete stranger, for a simple things like complaining about her day? You are heartless and it doesn't sound like you appreciate her at ALL.

TORD MAN I DO TREAT HER LIKE A QUEEN. I BOUGHT HER A VERY NICE HOUSE I BOUGHT HER A REAL SWEET CAR AND I ADOPTED MY SON. ASTRA, YOU DONT KNOW ME LADY SO DONT JUDGE ME. MY WIFE IS SPOILED. I WORK MY ASS OFF AND IT IS ALL FOR MY WIFE. SHE DOESNT STAY AT HOME. THE KID IS A TEENAGER NOW AND HE IS NEVER HOME AND SHE WORKS PART TIME JUST TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND GOES TO COLLEGE. SO WHY BITCH SO MUCH? SHE HAS IT MADE. SHE DOESNT EVEN HAVE TO CLEAN BECAUSE I GOT HER A HOUSECLEANER. IS IT TOO MUCH TO ASK FOR HER TO DRESS IN VICTORIAS SECRETS NIGHTIES INSTEAD OF SHORTS WHEN WE GO TO BED. I WANT HER TO LOOK SEXY FOR ME AND STIR IT UP A LITTLE LIKE WHEN I WAS DATING HER. ANY GUY READING THIS KNOWS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT. SHE STAYS SKINNY FOR ME BUT I WANT SEDUCTION. I LOVE HER BUT WTF? I'M BORED.

Wow....life w/ you must be grand. You give her all the MATERIAL THINGS she could ever want. Your post doesn't give much insight on your true situation. It leaves you sounding very cold and callous.........it's like you feel that since you provide so well for her on a material level...she owes you....where's the emotion in this relationship? Where is the love...the equal partnership...give and take...not just take because you think it's owed to you. And i'm just going off the little you give to read into!!

I don't know. I guess....have you ever tried talking to your wife about what you desire and feel isn't being met for you? Does she even know you feel as you do? do you even want this type of dress and action from her daily or just thinking that hey...the shorts and "T" are fine most nights....but every now and again you'd just like to see her dress up sexy just for you?! I'm betting she has no clue you feel this way? TALK to her! You want romance and sex back in the relationship.....YOU HAVE TO TALK TO HER! Not everything can be assumed. Especially after several years in a relationship.....you start to fall into a routine as husband and wife...sometimes it's easy to forget about the sex and romance and keeping things beyond just a daily normal routine.

And come on....no matter how good we all have it....we all tend to bitch and moan! I'm sure you do the same adn don't realize you're doing it anymore so then your wife. Go to work Monday and really listen to the people around you? Who doesn't bitch or nag or whatever about the little humdrums of everyday life....it's what we do. Sure...there gets to be a point where it's almost too much...we all need to have our vents and so forth...but yeah....sometimes you need a break and I can understand your not wanting to walk throgh the door and have your wife great you w/ complaints about her day....I think at some point she should be free to have her vents.

Look. All I can advise to you is TALK to her. Let her know what's bothering you specifically. If you can't talk to her....you really can't expect change. She's human.....imperfect...not a mind reader!!

Can I add this?? Raising a teenager is VERY stressing! There is so much they are going through and face offs w/ your teenager occur daily! You have your worries over them as they start to gain more independance.....you have your daily battles w/ them as you try to set rules and limits for their own good and....well you know how teens view that. Her stress is not the same as yours. I know it seems in your mind that she has it really well because she has this great house....a great car....has someone to clean for her....I know that seems like man...when you have so much ....what is there to bitch about.....well...life! Having the perfect house...car, etc. ....it doesn't take away from things that happen in life. She's attending college.....that's STRESSFUL....whether you attend fresh out of highschool or whether you go back later in life. She has a job....tell me a job that doesn't have situations you just need to vent about....be it the people she works w/....the job she had to do that particular day that just sucked....I mean...who knows.....her stress may not revolve around a 40+ hr. /week high powered job....but she has gripes just as valid as yours.....just different.

But ....I still will come back to this time and time again.....you need to communicate to her...in person....w/ a good open honest talk (corny as that might sound)....what is bothering you w/ your relationship and what you wish could be......you may not get everything you want either....but once you both start talking...maybe even argue a bit before resolve.....you can't get change til she knows that there is trouble and what you'd like to see happen to change the trouble.

I hope this helps. Or sparks some idea in you as where to start.

Of course I'm going to judge you. I think most people here are judging you. You posted on a public site, what do you expect?

BUYING her things, does not mean you love her or are respectful to her. Most women don't care about that $#%^, most women want someone who pays attention to them, and not just for sex, someone to listen to them, and care about them. Stupid little easy things like asking how her day was and actually meaning it.

I don't get why you aren't talking to her about it. If you have such a great marriage, why aren't you communicating with her? How hard is it to suggest being sexually playful?

I know lots of guys who would disagree with you. Quit living up to the stereotype and grow up.

P.S. You can make a point without shouting. Caps lock is a little over the top.

what a joy you must be to live with! women are not there to be at your beckoned call jerkface!

Stop being an idiot then maybe she'll stop bitching. If I was with you I'd bitch all night and day just to get on your nerves .