I'm Stupid

Hi

I have been in a raltionship with my gf for 2.5 years and we live together.

About 2 yrs ago I ran into my x gf that had told me on my 19th bday that she is in love with someone else. I felt wierd and awkward seeing her with my current gf. So i sort of walked off with out introducing them. A week later my ex called me and asked me for lunch, I didn't go, but i didn't mention my gf again.
I think in the back of my mind i wanted to lead her on and screw her up how she screwed me up many years ago.

I didn't do it though, I put it outa my mind.
I told my gf about her calling and me not mentioning her, and have lied to her about it saying I just wanted to get off the phone.

I recently told her the truth that i wanted to get her back at my ex for what she had done.
Now my current gf wants to breakup, coz i lied to her for so long.

I know what I did was so wrong, I don't want to loose her. I was so stupid for doing that.

I recently called my ex to try and make sense of what she did, and realised that it was so not worth it. She is not the kind of person that I like.

I really dont want to lose my gf, I love her so much and cant imagine life wihtout her.

She says that its too hard for her to be with me knwoing tht i had unresolved issues and feeling towards my ex till now.

What do I do

Doesn't anyone have any advise for for me?

You love your g/f but I don't feel you did anything wrong but hide the fact there were still some burning embers for your ex. All you can do is ask yourself who the better match is for you of the two women. Do your g/f a favor and love her like you've never loved another woman. If you keep messing around with her emotions she may leave you and I don't think you want that to happen. Good luck...talk to her Im sure she'll understand.

well....I've read your post and I'm not sure what the best advice is. Maybe taking a break from dating right now is a good idea. You need to get over the feelings you have relating to your ex. Deal w/ that so you can put it firmly...and truly behind you. Talk w/ your current girlfriend and this time be very open and honest w/ her. But until you know deep down what you want....as well as get over the ideas of playing revenge games....maybe a break from dating would benefit you right now?

You don't sound at all like you want to get back at your ex. I can understand completely the feelings of resentment and anger towards her; some people just can't get over that. I'm one of them. But whatever negative feelings I have towards my ex doesn't affect the relationships I have with other guys. It's a different person, different situation.

I can understand your current gf feeling upset about this other girl. She might be worried because you didn't tell her about it initially, but she should realize that you eventually did. You didn't do anything with your ex. Maybe she's worried you might cheat on her just to get back at that girl. Just continue being honest with her, and let her KNOW that you are doing that. People should appreciate honesty. Tell her you definitly don't have any unresolved issues, it's just residual anger that will fade with time.

Good luck. It sucks that your ex is still ruining things in your life.