I don't want it to end...

Hi. Me and my gf (girl-friend) have a great story of how we end up tgether, but it's irrelevant here. We've been lovers for 8 months, but things started to go wrong for some time now... My gf asks me alot for some time alone... The last time she did, she wanted us to not even speak to eachother at all (not even over the net). I understood her at first, because we did spend alot of time together. And so we both agreed that we would spend less now and it worked good, except that I have a problem... I used to call her alot to see where she is and with whome... It's sick I know ... And I want to improve myself ... On the other hand, she sais now that she doesn't think that she could ever be with someone... But I love her so much... And she does too. But she sais she just wants to spend time with others too because she has seen me enough... How do I interpret all this and what can I do to keep this relation working... Any advice would be grately apreciated... Thanks alot...

I guess it depends on just how much time you really are spending together. Maybe she is starting to feel like you are the only person in her life....that's not healthy. You both need to have a good mix of your alone time together....time apart for you each to just hang out w/ your friends....you your guy friends, her w/ her girlfriends...and then it's good to be in groups of people as well. A relationship should be a mix of things....not just ALWAYS you and her...together...every minute...be it in person or on the phone or e-mail!!! Sometimes it can start to feel too much. It's much healthier if you can each stand on your own and not feel that you just can't make it w/out that person holding you up!

Yeah... I totally understand that it's not healthy to speeend every minute toghether... And of course I can try to do a better job. But how do I deal with my sick need to know everything about her... When we're not together.. any tricks? And also... Is it possible for someone to just not be able to be with anyone? Or is it just a phase or a rushed conclusion... My gf is almost 17 years old so I think she is in a difficult and weird period... But I would do anything to save this relation...

17 years old... I remember going through a similar thing with someone around the 7 month phase. I started thinking about our relationship and whether or not I liked him enough to stay in the relationship (when we met I was more interested in his friend). I ended up choosing him, and the phase passed. Maybe the honeymoon phase is just dying down for you.

You can't force her into something, and trust me, being clingy and desperate will only make the situation worse. Don't call her and follow her just to find out where she is. Get yourself busy, go out with friends. A lot of people lose touch with their friends when they are iinvolved in a serious relationship.

Just, give her time to decide what she wants. There is nothing you can do to change anything except keep loving her. Try NOT to call when you get that urge.

Yeah. Thanks alot for the advice . I think things will work up fine now and I have confidence she still loves me. I'll do my very best to subside my obsession and I'll be nicer in the future. But I would like to keep her in my life