Huh?

"We do not want to know that we are helpless over whether another chooses to be loving and accepting toward us or judgmental and rejecting toward us."

Pardon me for not being a PhD, but that is nonsense. The logical conclusion of it is, "Why bother with other people at all?" Doing your own thing is not much fun when everyone else is busy doing his own thing. Yes, I can take care of me, and survive all by myself, but why would i want to? To what purpose? If being good to others will not make them like me, why shouldn't i move into a hermit cabin?

Spoken like a true avoidant

http://www.homehighlight.org/iframe-export/self-improvement/self-motivation/control-helplessness-and-love.html

nice read, thanx for the lead

What is this quote from?

To me this just sounds that we want to have more control over who falls for us. We don't want to know that there is nothing we can do to make someone love us, or prevent them from rejecting us.

skyway wrote:Spoken like a true avoidant

http://www.homehighlight.org/iframe-export/self-improvement/self-motivation/control-helplessness-and-love.html

nice read, thanx for the lead

Interesting article. I am going to read further on this site. Thank you for posting that link.


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The first step in moving beyond controlling and addictive behavior is to be willing to become aware of the feeling of helplessness. ~ Margaret Paul, Ph.D.