On Compatibility

Hi
I'm new here, so thank you for the opportunity to tell my story.
My relationship is in a bad way. My wife of 10 years is saying that we are not compatible and that she wants to leave. She says that she still loves me but that there is no overlap in our lives. The overlap thing, ie the things that we do together, or don't do, is a problem. Indeed it is something that I have seen coming for months and have suggested on many occassions that we try to fix. Whereas I presume that two people in a realtionship do things apart, they also do things together. Our problem is that we don't do things together. We used to, and I still do, regular things like going to the movies, exhibitions etc. My wife however just wants to do things with her friends who are mainly fellow studnets doing a course that she is doing on trans-personal psychology and some new agers. Although I don't subscribe to a lot of what they do, I have been supportive of my wife in doing the course, both emotionally and financially. However it has alienated us; she doesn't want to do stock standard things any more only things with her fellow students, who are 'more aware'. When I question this and say we should do joint activities, she says I don't like her friends and if I did and was 'more aware' I would do the things she likes to do. I don't believe in everything she does, indeed I would calssify some of it as 'bunkum'. Her freinds cannot talk about anything else, they question nothing and disparage anyone who doesn't believe it all all wholesale. So my problem is that I don't want to do lots of new age things and even though I support my wife doing it, she say we are on 'different paths'.
I love her and feel devastated at the idea of losing her. If I say so myself I have supported her to do things which she is now using to turn against me. She is saying I am too old, I am 10 years older than her and I don't see it makes a difference, I am very fit and look after myself mentally and, up until this bombshell, emotionally. I have a responsible job and am therefor termed a 'corporate head' neither her or her frineds are in the slighest bit interested in the pressures I face day to day or even care to ask anything about me. I feel used and abused. I don't want for much just some semblance of a stable relationship where each partner has some joint commonality and respect.
Thanks for that I feel better pouring this out. We are off to the first session of counselling on Monday. Any suggestions ?
Whenever I have suggested things in the past she just says, 'it should be easier'. It used to be.
Thanks for listening and any ideas gratefully accepted.
Drew

I'm assuming by now that you've already gone for your counselling. How did that go?

I don't want to be the voice of negativity, so I'll try and put a positive spin on things. I know you love her, and it's hard to possibly think of a life without her. But there might be something better for you. Breakups are always hard, and it might take time to get over her, but then maybe you'll find someone who is really compatible with you. Maybe someone who shares your interests. Someone who will work with you to make your relationship work, rather than giving up. How long has it been since you've had that excited butterflies-in-your-stomach first date kind of high? Think about what you want and need, not just how to make her happy. I hope things DO work out with you, but just remember that if it doesn't, a whole new life is waiting for you.