Really Need some Replies FAST!!!

Sorry for my request but I'm on my way to solving every last bit of problem that I had on the past especially during my troubled years... This is a message that I will send someone... I am not trying to court her I just want to "finish some unfinished business"... I need some advie on this fast because I really want to be "free" from everything that has held me back...

This is the message:

Please delete this message afterwards and please don’t reply...
Good am... I’m really sorry for bothering you... First of all this message may sound stalker-ish but I promise you its not... This may look creepy or disturbing but I have no intention of being a creep or something else for that matter... I happened to see your profile on facebook on the “people who you might know” section... You of course do not know me, only by name I guess... We were batchmates for two years and I uhhmm... I need to get some things off my chest... It has been bothering me for some time now... I just wanted to say that I used to have a big crush on you... (whew).... Now that I have said it, it feels good to get some things off my chest... Its really only a simple thing but at least I have got through an obstacle of sorts...Anyways, I never had the chance to say it to you before... and it has bothered me for some time... pathetic right? You most likely won’t remember my name anymore... I am not trying to be some sort of stalker here alright? Coincidence happens and when I saw your picture I thought “hey she looks familiar”... and then... I remembered and I decided to say it to you personally... This is not some sort of love letter just to be clear... Please do not reply, I just really wanted to have no regrets or anything... I made a fuss over such a small thing but hey thats my nature and I needed to just clear my thoughts away... Now that I have said it to you... I can finally say that I have finished one of my “unfinished businesses in life”... Of course this has no effect on you whatsoever because you can easily disregard and forget that a total stranger sent you a message... but If you have read this then I am thankful to you for giving some attention/time... you have just helped someone...
Again I am not spying on you or anything, it was pure coincidence... This also is not a letter of confession... I am not asking for your pity or anything... But you have helped someone “complete a quest” like in an RPG and I thank you for that...
PLEASE DELETE THIS MESSAGE AND PLEASE DO NOT REPLY... JUST THINK OF IT AS A SPAM THAT REACHED YOUR INBOX... I WILL NOT BOTHER YOU ANYMORE I PROMISE YOU THAT... SORRY FOR DISTURBING YOU AND YOU WILL HEAR NO MORE FROM ME...
And oh I’m not a liar, when I said that “don’t reply” I mean it... It is not reverse psychology to start an online conversation with you or anything... I really mean it... I am not trying to be an emo guy or anything... I really mean it when I said “don’t reply”... As I have said earlier this message is for the purpose of getting some things off my chest only... I honor my words and you will not be bothered again...GOOD DAY...

What do you think? I'm only getting things off my chest... I'm trying to fix my life and I am on my way of doing so. This is not a major problem but it is still something that bothers me... And I thought that if I could tell her then I will feel satisfied and I will have no reason to regret anything...

Well written, I'd send it off to her... you'll feel much better. Good luck.

I just wanted to like uhhmm get rid of this feeling called regret... I'm sending it to her... well now at least I'm one step closer to being "normal"... A few more skeletons and I'm done...

I don't think you should send it like that.

Take out all your negativity, "i feel like a stalker" - maybe just say Hi, , not sure if you remember me, we used to be batchmates, I saw your profile on facebook, thought I'd say hi and guess what, you might find this funny, but I used to have a crush on you., "I used to have a crush on you, whew", its shows lack of confidence and you should sound confident even if you are not.

Tell her how you feel, felt, with confidence, as though you are talking to your best friend, and telling them how you feel, felt.

Also take out all that DO NOT REPLY stuff, i'm pretty sure you want her to reply and if she wants to reply why not let her, if she doesn't then there's no need for you to tell her not too, cause she won't.

I spent half my early life writing letters just like that and pussy footing around being scared to tell people. If you read that letter you spend 90% of it apologizing, assuring her your not a stalker, not interested in relationship and 10% actually saying what you want to say.

Thats my opinion.

zygote404 wrote:I don't think you should send it like that.

As badly as the letter is written and as much as it does make him sound as if he lacks confidence and actually is a stalker, it does give a sneak peak into his mindset... which I'm sure the person he's e-mailing would rather see now as opposed to later.

oh ###$... oh ###$... I know I screwed up... sent it already... but all I wanted was to get things off my chest... ###$... the 2nd letter is good but that is just not me... I'm not trying to impress her... I just wanted to say everything to finally get over it... and I AM NOT A STALKER... ###$... I feel so down right now... Well whats done is done... I don't care what she will think I don't care... I want to solve every issue that I had and I'm being true to myself... that letter was not covered by anything... those are my thoughts... I want to be honest to myself...

GAH!!! PUTANG INA!!! Its fine... I'll handle my defeat and my shame like a man should... swallow every last bitter pill of being a loser... I can handle it...

I'll probably just end all my problems once and for all once I get the prescriptions... Damn that local drugstore for not selling anything to me...

Damn... I should have seen the advice here earlier... I screwed up again... I thought that my depression was gonna end earlier today but when I saw that I made a mistake... ugghhh another month for ###$ sake... And the worse part is this is just a minor problem that I'm trying to take care of... I have other things on my mind and any more failure is not necessary... SIGHS... damn... This event did not help me at all, only made me feel worse... SIGHS... I'm now down in the dumps again...

Should I delete my facebook account out of shame? or do I keep it?

Hey, m8 nah its cool. Dont freak out. We all mess up. I once asked a girl in bread shop if I could ask her about her friend who also worked there "thats not my friend, thats my daughter, do you know how old she is?". Ouch.

in regards to your comment "the second letter is not me", I just took what u said and removed all the insecurity. its not about impressing people its about not talking yourself down and slamming every door preemptively to protect against embarassment and rejection.

Like I said I used to write and act similiarly for the reasons above, if your reasons are different then I apologize. I dont mean to presume.

hope that helps m8

-- Sun Dec 04, 2011 3:20 am --

Tempest80 wrote:

zygote404 wrote:I don't think you should send it like that.

As badly as the letter is written and as much as it does make him sound as if he lacks confidence and actually is a stalker, it does give a sneak peak into his mindset... which I'm sure the person he's e-mailing would rather see now as opposed to later.

That was really cruel and uneccessary. People come here for advice and support, not to be made fun of. If you have nothing constructive or helpful to say dont say anything. The guys obviously struggling with these issues, being a smartass and as you have admitted, deliberately giving him bad advice is disgusting and infantile and could potentially have serious rl consequences.

I'm fine being made fun of... I make fun of myself so its not a big thing really...It was my fault for thinking that I did something good... I always screw up at these sort of things... well as far as RL consequences go, it really made my mood go down drastically as this is not the only issue I am dealing with... Well I uhh... I am at a loss right now... Just made a fool out of myself again... add this up to my more serious problems and this is gonna be another long week full of inner struggle... SIGHS... and to be on the safe side I deactivated my facebook account and it will be permanently gone in 14 days so I could at the very least save face...

zygote404 wrote:People come here for advice and support

It's all perspective. It was well written if you look at it from one perspective and not well written if you look at it from another. It was well written in the sense it was the true him he was showing, he laid it all out... exposed his vulnerabilities... kudos to him for having the courage to do that.

It was poorly written as far as what's socially expected goes... the majority of people will see what he wrote as seeming as if he lacks confidence... if you read my wording I said "seem as if"... when in reality it took a lot for him to write that and would point to the fact that this is someone who is willing to expose himself and put it all out there. How the recipient takes that is up to her, if she chooses to see all the negatives implied in his letter... is she right for him anyway? I think not.

A few things could have been changes in the letter but... in my not so humble opinion I found it refreshing to not have to do too much reading between the lines of his letter... other then the 'Do not reply' part, I believe inbetween those lines was 'Please reply if you like what you see'.