Need Advice

Wondering if i could get some insite on this problem ive been pondering. To start me and my b/f have been in a long distance relationship for close to a year. I love him and he feels the same way. I feel like we will be married when the time is right since I feel like there is such a soul connection with us. We can have so much fun together that I never could wiht another relationship.

Here is my problem, I live with my exhusband until I can get on my feet and find another place to live. No we don't sleep in the same bed, I live onthe upstairs floor, which is all mine. I have total privacy and I only come downstairs so his daughter can see her father. I hate to be in this situation and am very close to saving enough money to not live in the same residence as my ex husband.

My b/f has known of the information about me and my situation since the day we met. We have always been open and honest with each other. The problem is I'd like to meet my b/f (in person) but all I have is phone calls, pictures, and memories of us. I need more than that, I want real intimacy and to really start a future with him.

I am thinking the problem is either he is not as committed to this relationship as I am or he is uncomfortable with the fact that I am in the same household as my exhusband. I have 6 more months until I am moved into my own house and every minute I spend without him is hurting me inside.

Should I just tell him it would be better off to let this relationship go until I get back on my feet and get out of this situation I am in? I am thinking this isn't fair to him to be kept waiting and this situation is so hard to deal with but I am doing all I can to bring this predicament to one that is the best interest of my relation because I love him and want a future with him. Any advice?

I have to say; I find it odd that you are still living w/ your ex husband even w/ how things stand. I would feel insecure dating someone that still lived under the same roof as the person they've now divorced from. To me...I guess it would just feel like I shouldn't devote myself completely when the other person has yet to break all ties completely. Mind you, you'll always have one unbreakable tie....a child shared.

You mention your new relationship is long distance. Have you taken custoday issues of your daughter into consideration? You'll want to consider exactly how far away this new person in your life lives if you are giving thought to moving to his town. How that will impact custody for your ex-husband and time spent w/ his daughter.

Maybe consider how much you feel you need to live on too....see if you can't rent somewhere for less.....or where you already saving for just the bear minimum? But if you were aiming higher...maybe consider being able to get out on your own now but living somewhere for less....just even for the first year. Will your ex be paying child support?

I guess you have a lot to consider. And one is that you are just coming off a failed marriage. No matter why that marriage failed....you owe it to yourself to take some space and just focus on YOU! Not try to jump right back into a relationship. Date casually but take some time just to evaluate yourself. I had a cousin who's marriage ended after 10 years. And he was a drunk...cheated on her...was just flat out an ass. Most of the problems in their marraige could be largely attributed to him. However. She knew enough to realize that despite his cheating and being drunk....she too was not the easiest person to live w/ and although that didn't excuse his behavior and she wouldn't take blame for his drinking....she had to break from that marriage and take a good long hard look at who she became during that marraige. Wipe away the negative she took on during that time and get back down to her own self....try to make some positive changes for herself...that sort of thing. Only after ....well for her that took a good year and a half...different for everyone...but only after that time did she start dating again. She just felt it more fair not only to herself but any new relationship she might want to start up. And her 4 children too...as she really didn't want to be jumping from one guy to another when she's now a parent!

I don't know where I'm going w/ this...lots of thoughts pop up as an outsider glancing in I guess. I guess my thoughts are not to be so overconsumed w/ this new guy and take more time for yourself. And in the end....you need to talk to this guy. Yes you should be spending more time in person before you make big steps and uproot yourself and daughter to a new town w/ a guy you don't know all that well in person!

You should go on holiday to where your bf lives and meet him.