Ready to dump him due to abandoment issues : (

We haven't been intimate in almost a week and a half. The norm is 1 or 2x a week. Recently, I got mad at him about a few things, one is him saying he'll call later in a few hours then doesn't. Then seeing a girl waiting for him at his place when I went there to pick up my stuff. He wasn't there. Since then, we haven't been hanging out as much.

When we are together, I feel like forcing him to talk and some of the stuff that he says I don't believe because it just doesn't add up. The weird thing is we are just friends with an occasional hookup. It sort of irks me that he carries a conversation with family and friends either in person or by texting/calling and sort of says a few things to me and that it. I barely say anything to anyone about anything. That's how I've always been.

I told him that I was afraid of him abandoning me. He says I will always be your friend. He's the only friend I have. I have an almost impossible time forming friendships and he was the first man for us to go out to do things together. That, he reminds me of a boy I was close to when I was in elementary school.

It sounds as if you have issues with self esteem and are relying on this guy to fill in all the gaps in your life, and this is why you are terrified of him abandoning you. If you can get therapy, please try. If not, then you must try, in small ways, to reach out to people. It isn't easy to do this if you have difficulty making friends. It can begin by something as small as smiling at a shop assistant, or trying to make small talk with them. Just a small word or two, nothing more. You could also try to see if there are any support groups for people who are isolated like yourself. You don't have to talk or say much when you are there, just take things very slowly. You could also try to make friends of either sex on line, and when you feel ready, speak to them through a webcam. Make sure the sites are reputable ones. If you can try, in small ways, to fill your life, then you will not feel so needy or dependent upon this guy. You met and attracted him, which proves that you can meet and interest other people.

you yourself said your just friends with occassional hookups. seems liek you got attached emotionally to him and havnt asked him if he reciprocates the feelings. Sounds like your sitting in the dark hurting yourself while he goes on oblivious. if you dont tell him, he cant know and will act like nothing is happening other than you are a friend. if this is the case, your hurting yourself(he isnt, you are) staying in this situation as a) a friend and b)not saying anything.once you get emotionally attached to a friend its is VERy difficult to hang out as just friends while they date and hookup with other ppl. noone is a mind reader, sometimes hints arnt clear to some people, its always best to be direct, then you get a direct answer.

unless i misread your post.

like the poster above me said. it sounds like self esteem issues.